Summer Tao, Author at Autostraddle

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you need help

gender

‘I’m Lost in the Gender Expression Sauce’

“I always thought, if I weren’t a trans man, I’d be a butch lesbian.”

Summer Tao —

Mar 11, 2025

trans women

health

How Can Trans Women Deal With Erectile Dysfunction?

Erectile dysfunction is consistently counted among the most common sexual disorders. It’s also a topic close to my heart (and other organs) because I experience it.

Summer Tao —

Mar 6, 2025

disability

first person

Am I Disabled Enough?

Even after we come to terms with our impairments, we’re still dogged by self-doubt.

Summer Tao —

Feb 25, 2025

regular

you need help

"I've never had sex with a girl before and I'm highly insecure about my body."

sex

‘I’m a Sexually Inexperienced Stud Afraid of Doing It Wrong’

“Honestly I know I’m straight up lesbian ( stud ) and I’ve been in a few relationships with girls and I always ended it when things were about to get…

Summer Tao —

Feb 25, 2025

lesbian bed death

regular

"In the beginning of our relationship we had great sexual chemistry but when we started living together things went downhill."

sex

‘My Wife and I Haven’t Had Sex in Almost Two Years’

“We still kiss, cuddle, and go on dates, but that’s as intimate as it gets.”

Summer Tao —

Feb 18, 2025

video games

geekery

Cozy Games for the People Who Are Already Tired of This Year

Rather than being defined by genre, cozy games are identified by vibes. They’re soft in tone and connect players to themes like friendship and cooperation.

Summer Tao —

Feb 7, 2025

regular

you need help

"How do I experiment and find what makes my partner feel good if even a light make out session makes him overwhelmed with anxiety about his inexperience?"

relationships

‘How Can I Be a Good Girlfriend When My Partner Is Extremely Anxious About Sex’

“I feel like we intuitively understand each other and our needs in a lot of matters and are willing to figure it out when intuition isn’t enough. One area that…

Summer Tao —

Feb 4, 2025

bisexuality

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"I have practically zero sexual experience with women, and although I want to learn, I'm afraid that women will lose interest in me after I tell them about my inexperience."

dating

‘I Just Realized I’m Bi and Am Extremely Anxious’

I’ve flirted with women at bars, online, and have even had a few steamy make-out sessions, but I’m extremely anxious about taking it any further.

Summer Tao —

Jan 21, 2025

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you need help

“What cuts/styles of lingerie bottoms or pretty/sexy underwear are femmes with abundant pubic hair rocking?”

shopping

‘I Want Femme Lingerie That Accommodates an Abundance of Pubic Hair’

“Finding a pretty bra is relatively easy. However, I feel like I haven’t figured out what to do by way of pretty underwear.”

Summer Tao —

Jan 14, 2025

regular

you need help

"A few years ago, when I met the person who is now my best friend, I definitely had a big crush."

friendship

‘Is It Okay if I Stay in Love With My Best Friend?’

“We’re not going to get together for a lot of reasons — I don’t really have time for a new partner, they’re monogamous and I am not, and they’re just…

Summer Tao —

Jan 7, 2025

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trans

"I've been trying to find resources/advice for how to support a partner who is starting the process of taking hormones, but am really struggling to find information that isn't transphobic."

relationships

‘I Want To Support My Partner Who Is Starting HRT’

“I know there will be need to be a lot of conversations about what they’re feeling and conversations specific to how I can support them.”

Summer Tao —

Dec 24, 2024

regular

you need help

"I would very much like to 'travel downtown' without it ruining my whole face."

sex

‘Every Time I Go Down on My Partner, I Get the Nastiest Acne of My Entire Life’

I haven’t struggled with acne almost at all in my lifetime, but after eating my partner out, I break out with a “beard” of zits that lasts all week.

Summer Tao —

Dec 17, 2024

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Featured Articles by Author

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All Articles by this Author on Autostraddle

‘I’m Lost in the Gender Expression Sauce’

How Can Trans Women Deal With Erectile Dysfunction?

Am I Disabled Enough?

‘I’m a Sexually Inexperienced Stud Afraid of Doing It Wrong’

‘My Wife and I Haven’t Had Sex in Almost Two Years’

Cozy Games for the People Who Are Already Tired of This Year

‘How Can I Be a Good Girlfriend When My Partner Is Extremely Anxious About Sex’

‘I Just Realized I’m Bi and Am Extremely Anxious’

‘I Want Femme Lingerie That Accommodates an Abundance of Pubic Hair’

‘Is It Okay if I Stay in Love With My Best Friend?’

‘I Want To Support My Partner Who Is Starting HRT’

‘Every Time I Go Down on My Partner, I Get the Nastiest Acne of My Entire Life’