Summer Tao

sex

‘I’m Dating a Woman for the First Time and Can’t Go Down on Her’

“Whenever I try to go down on her I get grossed out by the taste and the smell. She is very clean so I know it is not a hygiene…

Summer Tao —

Jun 17, 2025

sex

A Master’s in Psychology Explains Clicker Training a Submissive in a Kink Context

Clicker training keys into the mental side of kink using benign tools.

Summer Tao —

Jun 12, 2025

first person

My Childhood Was Abusive. The Effects of CPTSD Kept Me From Realizing It

It took me over two decades to readily consider myself a victim of abuse.

Summer Tao —

Jun 10, 2025

sex

What Is Consensual Non-Consent Kink?

Consensual non-consent (CNC) is an umbrella term for fantasies and sex acts that mimic dubious or otherwise compromised consent.

Summer Tao —

May 23, 2025

dating

How To Make Sending Nudes Your Love Language

My dual-citizenship as a rampant slut who loves sending nudes and a sex worker deeply concerned with safety makes me oddly well-positioned to talk about it. Here are some crucial…

Summer Tao —

May 8, 2025

sex

‘I’m a Switch Having Trouble Initiating Topping’

My partner has a high libido and I have a relatively low one.

Summer Tao —

May 6, 2025

sex

I Haven’t Orgasmed During Sex in Five Years and It’s Really Okay

Orgasms never came (hah) easily to me.

Summer Tao —

May 5, 2025

relationships

‘I Want To Flee My Relationship’

“Today, I was talking to a dear friend about the current state of my relationship. They told me that it sounds like I am trapped, and that I am being…

Summer Tao —

Apr 15, 2025

sex

‘I Am Nervous About Having Sex With My Trans Girlfriend for the First Time’

I would love some insights from other trans women on what to expect when having sex with a trans woman, because I really want her to have a good time…

Summer Tao —

Apr 8, 2025

money + work

We’re Right Here: Finding Connection in My Community of Sex Workers

Whenever I think of the sex workers I befriended, the thing that always struck me is how different we all are.

Summer Tao —

Mar 27, 2025

gender

‘Can Trans Men Be Butches?’

And what makes a butch, butch?

Summer Tao —

Mar 25, 2025

gender

‘I Want To Change My Name Again’

Wanting to change your name now after people have adjusted will not make you a burden.

Summer Tao —

Mar 18, 2025