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‘I Feel Incredibly Bad and Guilty After Masturbating’

Feeling bad about masturbation is a remarkably normal thing, especially for people who were immersed (drowned) in shame from the beginning.

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Aug 5, 2025

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‘I’m a Trans Guy Looking for a Co-Parent. Are Queer Arranged Marriages a Thing?’

“I feel like in some ways, I could be down for a marriage in the sense of contract-to-build-a-family-unit rather than the marriage-driven-by-romantic-love sense.”

Summer Tao —

Jul 22, 2025

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A Queer Guide to BDSM Restraints for All Experience Levels

I’m gonna take you through the world of kinky restraints from entry-level essentials to things that should only be done in the presence of experts. My hope is to give…

Summer Tao —

Jul 15, 2025

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‘I’m Bisexual but Sex With My Boyfriend Makes Me Wonder if I’m Actually a Lesbian’

“I love my partner but I’m having trouble with our sex life.”

Summer Tao —

Jul 15, 2025

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trans women

health

4 Unexpected Things That Can Happen to Transfeminine Bodies on Estrogen

1. I’m so much cooler these days. Literally and figuratively.

Summer Tao —

Jul 3, 2025

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relationships

‘My Partner Talks on the Phone With Their Abusive Ex Every Day’

“Am I valid to be unsettled? And is there anything I can do to facilitate a conversation with them about this?”

Summer Tao —

Jun 24, 2025

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‘I’m Dating a Woman for the First Time and Can’t Go Down on Her’

“Whenever I try to go down on her I get grossed out by the taste and the smell. She is very clean so I know it is not a hygiene…

Summer Tao —

Jun 17, 2025

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kink

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A Master’s in Psychology Explains Clicker Training a Submissive in a Kink Context

Clicker training keys into the mental side of kink using benign tools.

Summer Tao —

Jun 12, 2025

first person

My Childhood Was Abusive. The Effects of CPTSD Kept Me From Realizing It

It took me over two decades to readily consider myself a victim of abuse.

Summer Tao —

Jun 10, 2025

sex

What Is Consensual Non-Consent Kink?

Consensual non-consent (CNC) is an umbrella term for fantasies and sex acts that mimic dubious or otherwise compromised consent.

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May 23, 2025

dating

How To Make Sending Nudes Your Love Language

My dual-citizenship as a rampant slut who loves sending nudes and a sex worker deeply concerned with safety makes me oddly well-positioned to talk about it. Here are some crucial…

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May 8, 2025

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‘I’m a Switch Having Trouble Initiating Topping’

My partner has a high libido and I have a relatively low one.

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May 6, 2025