himani, Author at Autostraddle

Solo Dance by Li Kotomi, translated by Arthur Reiji Morris

Li Kotomi’s “Solo Dance” Is Haunted by Death and Literature

Solo Dance has no illusions that in the present day, the implicit and explicit violence of homophobia still leaves lasting scars on young queer people.

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May 24, 2022

A frustrated Black woman feeling despair sits by her computer in a shared office holding her head in her hands.

money + work

You Need Help: How Do I Deal With the Inescapable Sexism in My Industry?

Ultimately, your question is about how to find hope in the midst of the inescapable bigotry that defines the working world.

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Mar 1, 2022

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life

You Need Help: Trying To Live Through the Pandemic Is Destroying My Mental Health

I want you to hold this: Even though the world is kind of terrible, your life is precious and valuable, and you are loved.

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Feb 22, 2022

A South Asian woman makes a phone call while also working on her laptop.

politics + activism

It’s Time to Make the Call, Because We Cannot Filibuster Another Year

We need to make sure that every Democratic senator votes to end the filibuster and that Republican senators know their constituents oppose their obstructionism. Here’s a how to guide for…

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Jan 11, 2022

tv reviews

HBO Max’s “Sort Of” Tells The Story of Three Transitions

Over the course of eight short episodes, pretty much every character in Sort Of has to contend with their assumptions about themselves and the world around them.

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Jan 11, 2022

Side by side identical images of string lights hanging from a tree in New York City

first person

The Stories We Tell

One of my earliest memories, perhaps my earliest one, is watching the snow fall from the sliding glass doors to the balcony of the small apartment my family rented in…

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Dec 20, 2021

society + culture

Hallmark, Dabur and the Politics of LGBTQ+ Inclusive Advertising

I would argue that it becomes impossible to really talk about LGBTQ+ rights without delving into religion because religions the world over have long called us sinners. This is as…

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Nov 12, 2021

two individuals sit on a couch looking at their phones as though they are looking at an advice column. the one on the left inspects the screen. they are Black, have hair in a light brown afro style, are wearing glasses and a yellow collared shirt. next to them is a person who is looking at their screen and grinning. this person is taller, white, has long straight brown hair and is wearing a white striped tee

straddleverse

Advice Columns Were My Guilty Pleasure Until They Became My Connection to Community

That’s what makes these posts so special, really, is that they’re not about a singular person bestowing their wisdom onto faceless readers but rather a coming together of a community…

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Oct 28, 2021

breakups

You Need Help: Is It Really Over?

I had no choice but to accept her decision, but it really hurts, as I feel blind-sided and it’s hard to come to terms with what happened.

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Oct 19, 2021

A south asian person with long her and a baggy jacket is frustrated with their hands on their head

coming out

You Need Help: I’m Closeted, How Do I Get Everyone to Stop Asking If “I’ve Found a Man”?

I am not of the belief that “everyone should come out in order to live their best lives,” but I do want to acknowledge how incredibly difficult it is to…

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Oct 12, 2021

A close up of a variety of newspapers piled together horizontally.

politics + activism

Extra! Extra!: One Final News and Politics Round Up for You!

This month we’re looking at the climate crisis, big tech, gun violence, democracy, the Delta variant and yes — saying goodbye (for now).

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Aug 13, 2021

a person rests their head on their hand, looking fed up and bored in a workplace esque setting. text on the image reads Into the A+ Advice Box

af+

A+ Advice: I’m Afraid Having a Day Job Makes Me a Creative Sellout

“More and more of my life feels permanent instead of temporary and it’s freaking me all the way out.”

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Aug 13, 2021

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Li Kotomi’s “Solo Dance” Is Haunted by Death and Literature

You Need Help: How Do I Deal With the Inescapable Sexism in My Industry?

You Need Help: Trying To Live Through the Pandemic Is Destroying My Mental Health

It’s Time to Make the Call, Because We Cannot Filibuster Another Year

HBO Max’s “Sort Of” Tells The Story of Three Transitions

The Stories We Tell

Hallmark, Dabur and the Politics of LGBTQ+ Inclusive Advertising

Advice Columns Were My Guilty Pleasure Until They Became My Connection to Community

You Need Help: Is It Really Over?

You Need Help: I’m Closeted, How Do I Get Everyone to Stop Asking If “I’ve Found a Man”?

Extra! Extra!: One Final News and Politics Round Up for You!

A+ Advice: I’m Afraid Having a Day Job Makes Me a Creative Sellout

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