Vanessa

Blush and Bashful

lesbian weddings

Blush and Bashful: I’m Writing a Lesbian Wedding Column and You’re Invited

Welcome to Blush & Bashful, a new biweekly column about planning a queer wedding.

Vanessa —

Jan 19, 2023

word search

puzzles

Word Search: Into Every Generation

A you-know-what is born!

Vanessa —

Jan 5, 2023

you need help

relationships

You Need Help: I Feel Like I’m My Girlfriend’s Second Choice

I want you to start 2023 feeling like your own number-one pick. That way, when the right person comes along, you’ll be ready and confident to be her number-one pick,…

Vanessa —

Jan 3, 2023

gay marriage

lesbian weddings

Some Things I Didn’t Expect When Planning My Lesbian Wedding

2. I’m in not infrequent contact with a woman named Daphne who is renting me a Fancy Portable Toilet Trailer with air conditioning.

Vanessa —

Jan 3, 2023

word search

puzzles

Word Search: The Situationship

A judgement-free zone.

Vanessa —

Dec 29, 2022

coming out a little later

you need help

identity

You Need Help: I Just Turned 65 and I’m Questioning My Sexuality

I think everyone in the queer community knows this but I think we need to say it more explicitly and more often: Queerness is a journey.

Vanessa —

Dec 27, 2022

gay marriage

lesbian weddings

I’m a Queer Bride on a Budget — And I Went to a Bridal Expo

Have you ever heard of a Bridal Expo? I sure hadn’t! And did you know there are wedding-themed porta potties?!

Vanessa —

Dec 12, 2022

feelings atrium

first person

Goodbye to My Gallbladder

Happy Gallbladder Day on Autostraddle dot com! I’m glad you’re here and I’m glad my gallbladder is not.

Vanessa —

Nov 30, 2022

sponsored

City Queers Went Outdoors With REI And Naturally — It Was a Blast

We partnered with REI to encourage queer folks to explore their cities and move their bodies all while meeting new local queers!

Vanessa —

Nov 14, 2022

Practical Magic

food lists

How to Meal Plan Without Hating Your Life and Your Self

Preparing a meal does not have to be an elaborate situation.

Vanessa —

Oct 31, 2022

sponsored

Autostraddle Goes Outside, in Chicago and Portland!

Autostraddle and REI have teamed up for an exciting October event that you won’t want to miss.

Vanessa —

Oct 14, 2022

into the af+ advice box

kink

af+

How to Find Local Kink Community and Also How to Hire a Sex Worker

“There’re contingencies of queer freaks everywhere, sometimes it just takes a little more effort.”

Vanessa —

Sep 22, 2022