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#PolyamoryProblems

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relationships

#PolyamoryProblems: Advice for Newbies with Too Many Feelings

For some polyam newbies, big feelings can make you feel out of control. Dating experienced people can be a gift, but it could also mean that you defer to your…

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Jun 8, 2021

#PolyamoryProblems

advice

love + sex

#PolyamoryProblems: How Can I Make My Primary Partner Have More Fun?

Stop trying to make your vanilla partner more kinky!

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May 3, 2021

#PolyamoryProblems

advice

sex

#PolyamoryProblems: How to Approach Safer Sex with Multiple Partners

Polyamory is all fun and games until you get an STI from one partner and then your other partner shames you for it. STIs aren’t fun, but they do happen.…

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Apr 5, 2021

#PolyamoryProblems

polyamory

relationships

#PolyamoryProblems: How To Deal With Jealousy

This month, jealousy rears its pesky head for one polyamory veteran. Find out how to normalize jealousy, decode your feelings, and reframe jealousy as a gift to point you towards…

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Mar 1, 2021

#PolyamoryProblems

polyamory

relationships

#PolyamoryProblems: How Do I Stop Getting Vetoed by My Dates’ Partners?

You’ve been vetoed — that truly sucks! A veto is where each person in a relationship has the power to end the other person’s relationships — “I vote against you…

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Feb 1, 2021

#PolyamoryProblems

polyamory

relationships

#PolyamoryProblems: How to Deal With a Closeted Partner

Feeling made invisible by your own partner’s choices to not come out as both queer and polyamorous is tough. This edition of #PolyamoryProblems dives into how to deal with a…

DaemonumX —

Jan 4, 2021

#PolyamoryProblems

advice

breakups

#PolyamoryProblems: How Do I Know When It’s Time To Break Up?

The idea of breaking up, and/or transitioning your relationship to platonic as somehow a failure or throwing something away is one of those pesky ideas we need to unlearn.

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Dec 7, 2020

#PolyamoryProblems

advice

relationships

#PolyamoryProblems: The Way My Partner Engages With Her Other Partner Makes Me Uncomfortable, What Should I Do?

Boundaries are our manifestations of how we deserve to be treated and what we will accept from others.

DaemonumX —

Nov 2, 2020

film

“Bloodsisters”: A Timeless Exploration of Leatherdyke Culture

Michelle Handelman’s Bloodsisters, a documentary about a group of San Francisco leatherdykes, is celebrating its 25th anniversary at NewFest. More than just whips and chains, the film spotlights a culture…

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Oct 21, 2020

#PolyamoryProblems

advice

relationships

#PolyamoryProblems: Opening Your Relationship 101

Welcome to the first installment of #PolyamoryProblems, a new advice column on Autostraddle. There are countless things I wish I had known before I started out, and lucky for you…

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Oct 5, 2020

bdsm

kink

breakups

The Unique Grief of Ending a BDSM Relationship

Breaking up is hard to do, but what do we know about breakups between Dominant and submissive? This is a personal exploration of how grief settles when the collar comes…

DaemonumX —

Aug 9, 2019