The best advice for a first date is always to be yourself; obviously you’re also interested in being the hottest, most unforgettable version of yourself. A good first date outfit does both: shows your date something about who you are and how you move through the world, and also that you are very hot. Some of the social markers of queer culture can also be a factor – do you want to show off that you’re femme? Hint that you’re ready to top? Somehow express that you aren’t a tenderqueer but are emotionally literate? It’s a lot to process. Here are 7 true-life queer hotties who have helpfully showed you what they like to wear on first dates and why.