Feature image of Chocolate Chip and Tastee Treasures in Crash Pad Series episode 182. All of the photographs in this NSFW Sunday are from the Crash Pad. The inclusion of a visual here should not be interpreted as an assertion of the model’s gender identity or sexuaal orientation. If you’re a photographer or model and think your work would be a good fit for NSFW Sunday, please email carolyn at autostraddle dot com.
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Erykah Ohms and Tina Horn in Crash Pad Series episode 262
“Scent tells us where we came from, and perfume tells us who we want to be.” At the Cut, Arkady Martine writes about the intimacy of scents and curating her perfume collection to match her wife’s:
“On the days we wear the same perfume, I feel like we’ve been married a lot longer than the year and a half we’ve got under our belts: It’s a seamless partnership that still has room for individual variation. The same molecules, different skin chemistry.”
Cinnamon and Cicatriz in Crash Pad Series episode 169
Sometimes it’s hard to have sex after a breakup and that’s okay:
“Feeling anxious about sleeping with someone new will be par for the course, says Ammanda Major, a sex and relationships therapist at Relate. ‘There are many reasons people worry about sex after a breakup,’ she explains. ‘You might be nervous about what’s expected: what might someone want me to do? How will my body look? What will it be like with someone new? How far do I actually want to go? And of course there’s the issue of being vulnerable with somebody new after breaking up with a partner.’
Dig deeper into how you’re feeling, advises Major: ‘Work out what’s worrying you and rationalize it. Understand where it’s coming from. If something’s bothering you, maybe you’re worried your needs might not be met, or that this isn’t the right person. Know yourself well enough to recognize how you’re really feeling.'”
Scout and Lew Pine in Crash Pad Series episode 227
Tumblr’s “adult content ban” is making it harder to see celebratory photos of all different sorts of bodies — “naked trans bodies, naked bodies of color, naked non-binary bodies, and naked fat bodies. Sometimes all at once” — and it sucks, writes Lindsey Weedston, who also talks to three fat-positive Tumblr women on where their work is now, at the Establishment:
“[S]ince December 17, 2018, I don’t see naked fat bodies anymore. Ever. Tumblr was the only place I saw them before that date. Where else can I find them? I certainly tried Googling ‘fat naked bodies’ for this article, and you can imagine what I found. Pornography featuring fat women is nearly always fetishized, which is not what I’m looking for. And I don’t want to have to wade through any kind of porn site in order to see a body like mine. I miss being able to see those bodies casually, unexpectedly, on Tumblr, as though it were as normal as a video of a cat batting things off of a counter.”
Selphie Labrys and Tessa Wreck’d in Crash Pad Series episode 265
We tell ourselves stories in order to spank.
Here’s what to know about genital piercings.
“Let’s talk about consent beyond sex.”
Michelle Lam writes about adapting to a partner after getting really good at solo sex at Oh Joy Sex Toy.
How does the law of marginal utility relate to sex and love?, asks Denece Mohammed at the Establishment.
Here’s how to tell if someone is flirting with you according to their astrological sign. And here’s how to tell if they’re over you.
Sad over your breakup? There are apps for that.
Chocolate Chip and Tastee Treasures in Crash Pad Series episode 182
Should you get back together with your ex? Think it through:
“‘Humans tend to be creatures of habit and it is always easier to stick with what is familiar rather than finding our way alone,’ says registered psychotherapist Toby Ingham. ‘It can feel very easy and safe to walk back into an old relationship rather than having to face all of the uncertainty of being alone and starting again. Making up can be very powerful, and can fill us with all sorts of feelings of love.’
However, Ingham adds that there is a risk of failure due to the fact you’re launching yourself back into something that didn’t work the first time. ‘There is a possibility that the problems that were there before will still be there—the old arguments and doubts don’t get forgotten.'”
Tumblr was one the few place where I could see self made work form trans women and nonb-binary folks without the gaze of cis male porn industry.
That’s what I was coming to say too with some other things that are much harder for me to word. Censorship hits the most vulnerable, not the most cruel…censorship from above is in itself a kind of cruelty.
Perfume is amazing.
I love it when girls smell nice.
But if you have asthma and put perfume on, you are in for a while day of sneezing coughing throat tightening pain.