Feature of Jayogen and Mia Li in Crash Pad Series episode 215. All of the photographs in this NSFW Sunday come from CrashPadSeries.com. The inclusion of a photograph here should not be interpreted as an assertion of the model’s gender identity or sexual orientation. If you’re a photographer or model and think your work would be a good fit for NSFW Sunday, please email carolyn at autostraddle dot com.
Welcome to NSFW Sunday!
+ At the Rumpus, Jennifer Elliot writes about holding intensity as part of a BDSM experience, BDSM as “a loop of erotic desire and satisfaction,” the power of having a safeword you can choose to use or not and being beaten with a bull pizzle as a moment of realization:
“I’d found something big enough to fit my trauma into, a form comparable, finally, to its size and unwieldy power. Where the trauma was enormous, roiling, and too big to comprehend, this sensation was precise, tangible, yet just as large. Finally, something that matched its caliber, in just a split second. It was a searing pain so big that I had to try to take it apart and feel its nature in slices: first there was the initial fire, then the wash of that fire up through my head, and down to my toes. Localized, then universal, that one whack ignited my entire nervous system in one big bang. It was relief. I’d never felt the nerves in me as such a complete network before. Not until then had it ever been so lit up.
There were nineteen more strikes.”
+ At Oh Joy Sex Toy, Vicky Leta discusses mental illness and dating.
+ Morning sex is most common at 9 am on a Sunday.
+ It’s totally normal to experience pain during penetrative vaginal sex.
+ When you’re over porn clichés or not seeing bodies that look like yours represented, check out these websites instead:
“[T]he fact that the porn industry has a lot to answer for is unignorable. Male pleasure often takes priority over the female orgasm, the bodies of PoC, queer and trans people are usually either erased or fetishised and rape fantasies can be stumbled upon with just one accidental click of a rogue pop-up. Increasingly, though, a new wave of directors, actors and activists are looking to rectify these archaic narratives, presenting intersectional celebrations of sex in all its glory.”
+ Plus, Autostraddle queer porn favorite and affiliate the Crash Pad Series, seen all over this post, is donating 50% of its membership sales today, February 5, to the American Civil Liberties Union. Use the coupon code “COMETOGETHER” for 15% off a membership.
+ Hater, a new dating app that launches February 8, lets you connect with people over mutual dislikes:
“A swipe-based app, Hater first has you swipe down for hate, up for love, right for like, and left for dislike or opt out for neutral [on over 2,000 topics] right now — including Donald Trump, gluten-free, camping, marijuana, butt selfies, and Taylor Swift as a person — and eventually, the plan is to add user-generated topics. […] After swiping through for a bit, you can see your matches, with each percentage determined by your shared dislikes.
Aside from being a gimmicky angle into the dating-app market, there are some past scientific studies that show Hater might be onto something. […] In one study, participants were asked to list one thing they liked and one thing they disliked about a fictitious character named Brad. Then they were told they would meet someone who either liked or disliked the same thing about Brad. The study found that ‘people who expected to meet a stranger felt closer to this person when they believed that they shared a negative — as opposed to a positive — attitude about a man named Brad.’”
