Feature image of Alena Blohm by photographer Olivia Malone.
Welcome to NSFW Sunday!
+ Not sure how to initiate sex? Try being a tease, being sentimental, helping them relax, being playful and giving them a compliment:
“The best way to make your initiation feel more personal is to tell your partner exactly why you want them in that moment. Say something like, ‘Your ass looks so incredible in those pants. I want to get my hands all over it,’ I can’t control myself when I see you stepping out of the shower,’ or, I can’t believe how lucky I am to get to look at you every day.’ If your partner is sensitive to feeling like you want sex just to get off, tell your partner why you’re wanting to connect with them in that moment. For example, ‘I love how close I feel to you when we’re in bed together.’”
+ I’m still so into “How to Make Me Come.”
+ I’m not enthralled by the idea of medicalizing or problematizing women’s lack of orgasms (or getting them to sign up for expensive classes related to them) unless that is how you prefer to address your own self and body, and this article has a few terrible lines in it, but I’m on board with the idea that acknowledging bodily desires — related to sex, or anything else — leads to happiness.
+ Dry humping: the Lucky Charms to your avocado toast and bloody mary or a regular menu item you should remember about sometimes?:
“But the best reason to consider adding dry humping back into your repertoire is simply that it feels good. Rubbing against another person and feeling their desire build is hot. Dry humping works particularly well for women, especially those who incorporate firm pressure or grinding into their masturbation routines. Ladies, if you used to masturbate as a child by climbing jungle gym poles or ropes, by rubbing yourself on the edge of a desk or mattress, or by humping hard objects like a remote control, there’s a high likelihood you can orgasm from dry humping.”
+ In her new book Love Not Given Lightly: Profiles from the Edge of Sex, QueerPorn.tv cofounder Tina Horn profiles queer sex workers in a way that highlights blips across human sexuality. In a review on Lambda Literary, Sara Rauch writes:
“These profiles, which, written by anyone else would certainly lose their je ne sais qoui, stand as a sort of subversion of voyeurism—for a set of people so used to revealing and reveling in their physically intimate selves, Horn’s words delve into a deeper, more interior, and possibly more vulnerable, layer. They are love stories, after all, and vulnerability is an important component to any love affair.”
+ Vanilla sex can be hot too:
“The name ‘vanilla’ implies middle-of-the-road, but the reality is that that’s impossible to define for any one person, especially when it comes to sex. If you love missionary does that mean your sex life is doomed to the doldrums? What about if you aren’t into bondage? Or butt plugs? Just because you do not enjoy tying someone up, spanking them or what have you, does not mean that your sex life is somehow less fulfilling or worthwhile than anyone else’s. Whether you identify as vanilla or kinky, embrace it, respect it and, most importantly, enjoy it. The point of great sex isn’t about what you don’t enjoy, but what you do. Plus, if you dig a bit deeper into that vanilla metaphor, you might say that while vanilla is a common flavor, it’s still one that’s beautiful, complex and highly prized.”
+ From the Autostraddle Lesbian Sex Archives: “13 Ways to Make Your Long-Distance Relationship The Most Awesome Part of Your Life“:
“I was in a long distance relationship for several years, so I know that staying connected to your huggle bear can be hard. You want to touch them, smell them and, if you’re me, bite their ear. Why don’t the forces of geography and physics rally to both your cries and fold the world up like origami until the front doors of your homes kiss?”
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