Welcome to NSFW Sunday!
+ At the Hairpin, Lindsay King-Miller (“A Queer Chick”) answers questions on relationship disparity, having a husband and a mistress, asexuality and bi invisibility:
“Lesbians and bisexual girls en masse went through a phase about seven years ago where we were constantly getting crushes on straight girls, and it was a huge emotional roller coaster for us all. Every time they called us we would blush even if no one was around, and when they flirted in that platonic way straight girls do and played with our hair and called us pretty, we felt like we were going to catch on fire and die, and once or twice we got drunk and almost confessed our feelings but swallowed them just in time. Then one morning we all simultaneously woke up happy and clear-eyed and thought, ‘Wow, I’m so glad that’s out of my system.’ Now? If we think there’s even a slight chance we might be developing an interest in a straight girl, we delete her number from our phone and avoid every place we’ve ever seen her, including the office where we both work. So if you want pussy to be an option any time in your future, you’re gonna need to put it out there that you’re queer.”
+ The nominees for the 2013 Feminist Porn Awards have been announced, and include titles like Lesbian Curves, Butches and Babes, The Art of Sex, Strap on Desires and The Real L-Word XXX: NYC. + At the Telegraph, five women of different generations discuss their experiences with sex, sexual health and reproductive rights.
+ Go Deeper Press is looking for stories about Sex With Sporty Queers.
+ Autostraddle has reviewed the New York Toy Collective’s Shilo Pack & Play and the Love Bump.
+ This week the Center for Sexual Pleasure and Health discusses Sexual Studies: Sexual Health and Youth Counseling – Yay Or Nay?
Sexual health issues are often related to both mental and physical health concerns, yet tend to not be discussed, especially with youths and those who are sick or disabled. It is vital, therefore, that we gain a better understanding about why practitioners do or do not discuss these issues so that we can begin to address the issue.
+ Slut shaming can come from within:
“Although I know doctors are trained not to judge, and this doctor in particular had been particularly kind, helpful and professional when I’d seen her previously, in my head, all of a sudden the number (at best an approximation as I haven’t kept an exact count in year) seemed like cause for alarm. Even if I never had to say it out loud and its size was simply one more piece of data for her to use in evaluating me, something about it made me erase what I’d typed in the online form and halve it. As it turned out, she didn’t even ask me a single thing about my number, so that fretting was for naught—except that it taught me a lesson: slut shaming isn’t just something other people do to us, but something we can do to ourselves.”
+ Sex gets better with age, especially if you think critically about cultural standards of attractiveness:
“In a world that only presents the latest 18-25-year-olds as sexy, it’s a challenge to not compare oneself or one’s partner with that fantasy […] But it takes more than that. Every time you compliment someone’s appearance by telling them that they look young, you’re reinforcing the idea that we lose value as we age. I feel sadness around that because it encourages us to deny our histories, to pretend we’re something we aren’t, and to create an image of who we wish we were rather than celebrating who we’ve become. And let’s not forget that many of the cosmetic treatments to make us look younger don’t work all that well and are promoted with ads that are photoshopped like crazy. My willing suspension of disbelief snapped a long time ago.”
+ Here are two girls kissing for a long time
http://vimeo.com/46074468
+ On March 28th at 7:00 PM, Babeland is holding an event just for Autostraddlers at its Soho location in New York!
The “Kickass Cocktail Party with Autostraddle” will be all about sex tips for queer women. We know you might not necessarily need them, but we’re sure you’ll want to try them when you hear all about Babeland’s favorite oral, strap-on and G-spot techniques, curated with your needs in mind. Babeland sex educators will be around after the workshop to answer all your questions. It will be super queer, super trans* friendly, and super sex positive (obviously!).
+ At The Guardian, Fern Brady argues that “porn for all,” not a ban, is better for women:
I’ve lost count of the number of times I’ve had to switch porno off because I’ve felt it was misogynistic or formulaic, but that doesn’t mean I want my consumption of porn to be regulated. Blow job scenes, for example, are overly long in almost all mainstream content. With the exception of a smattering of offerings from women directors such as Anna Span, female viewers are constantly reminded that this stuff isn’t for them. Yet shouldn’t that mean we’d be better off striving for greater equality within pornographic images, not hastily writing off all sexual expression on film as sexist?
+ Babeland wants you to be a sexual adventurer, which’s why it’s offering 15% off things like its Bondage Tape, Sex Sling, Leaf Life Vibe, Bend Over Beginner Kit and so much more!
+ Having trouble getting wet? You should read this, it could help.
+ Rachel Kramer Bussel reviews The Feminist Porn Book:
“‘Women challenge the status quo, because we are never it … Porn hasn’t even begun to leverage the female experience of desire, arousal and sex, through the female lens,’ Makelovenotporn.tv founder Cindy Gallop wrote recently in The Independent. Yet while there’s a lot of work left to be done, these pioneers and their progeny are seeking to create porn in their own images, sourcing talent from within their communities and taking into consideration a host of concerns that go far beyond cash. The Feminist Porn Book is both a scholarly and intensely personal look at what’s been accomplished so far, and where feminist porn is going.”
+ At Dodson and Ross, sometimes the best orgasms are alone.
+ Facebook’s new “Bang With Friends” app is not just for banging your friends, allegedly.
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