Welcome to NSFW Sunday!
+ Sugarbutch is co-throwing a free queer porn party on January 31, in which the queer Internet gathers ’round the Twitter hashtag #pornparty, logs in using a to-be-announced access code and talks about queer sex:
“[QueerPorn.TV’s] porn reflects the true sexual desires of our performers, the Queer Porn Stars of the world, when we ask them to choose who they want to work with, what they want to do, and how they want to do it. We believe we don’t need to order our performers around in order to make hot, marketable porn – we think the fantasies, and realities, of these incredible people are better than the stereotypes and formulas of your run-of-the-mill porn.”
+ On the prevalence of orgasm-free casual sex for ladies:
“Research, articles, ubiquitous workshops on the female orgasm all speak to the ‘orgasm gap,’ the relative difficulty among women, compared to men, in achieving climax. And research, and articles and let’s be honest, personal experience all speak to the prevalence of casual sex. But what does casual sex mean, given this orgasmically bleak landscape. In other words, what’s the point of having a purely physical sexual encounter, if you don’t have an orgasm? Is it worth it to ‘jump on it’ if you’re not going to get off from it? Did I just start writing like Carrie Bradshaw? Is that really relevant?”
+ CNBC recently ran an article (that I will not link to) arguing that porn’s “new” market is women. Ms Naughty, who runs a site aimed at straight women, counters:
“Porn for women became OK over the last decade (or 4 decades) after I and a whole bunch of other women worked hard to create it, get it out there, make it acceptable and appealing and, ultimately, even old hat to a new generation of female porn surfers who reject the ‘porn for women’ label as too boring or rigid or soft-focus or romantic.
CNBC’s article then goes on to define women’s porn as having a plot and being less gonzo or extreme. Essentially it’s saying women only like ‘romance porn’ and – goodness knows, I’ve been through this discussion plenty of times before – lots of women don’t feel that way. It’s kind of unhelpful to have mainstream media depicting porn for women as this one thing, especially when it’s so diverse. And the article doesn’t bother to mention lesbian or queer porn.”
+ A bug in OkCupid’s new Crazy BlindDate app temporarily exposed users’ email addresses and birth dates.
+ The first part of Kirsten O’Regan’s investigation into “the most popular trend in the field of ‘vaginal rejuvenation surgery‘, “The Barbie,” is on Guernica. (Recover here or here (VERY NSFW))
+ A lot of nonsexual touching is key to a fantastic long-term relationship!
+ Femme Fatale, edited by Lana Fox, is a short erotica anthology of stories that feature dangerous femmes, like in V.C.’s “La Femme Chocolat”:
“Without needing to ask, and as if she read my mind, her long legs wrapped around my neck like a serpent and pulled my head into her, ready to make me its prey as my tongue dived into her wet and glistening cunt. It tasted sweeter than the cordial, more delicious than any chocolate of hers that I ever had the pleasure of eating, more sinful than gluttony. My tongue swam and drowned in the depths of her, as well as my four fingers, swirling and twirling and churning into her, making her come.”
+ According to Dr. Sonja Lyubomirsky, long-term relationships needs variety, companionship and sexual and non-sexual touching:
“The flame of love — the feelings that prompt people to forget all their troubles and fly down the street with wings on their feet — does not last very long, and cannot if lovers are ever to get anything done. The passion ignited by a new love inevitably cools and must mature into the caring, compassion and companionship that can sustain a long-lasting relationship. […]
Infatuation and passion have even shorter life spans, and must evolve into ‘companionate love, composed more of deep affection, connection and liking,’ according to Sonja Lyubomirsky, a professor of psychology at the University of California, Riverside.”
+ These top five writing lessons from 50 Shades of Grey include: avoid repetition, use few adverbs, don’t use substitutes for “said” and be accurate.
+ The Awl has a statistical analysis of the New York Times’ “Modern Love” column:
“SUBTOPICS
Love (Romantic) (73%)
Lost (57)
Misplaced (28)
Over (13)
Unrequited (27)
From afar (33)
From nearby (9)
From creepy individual on subway (4)
From untenured SUNY lit professor** (4)”
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