Web MD, world’s sexiest website, wants to know why people have sex but mostly why women and men want sex for different reasons. Much to nobody’s surprise, they decided that men like sex because of “how it feels” whereas although women “very well may also derive pleasure from the act,” they’re “generally more interested in the relationship enhancement aspects of sex.” Probably they should’ve surveyed more lesbians.
Here are the reasons people mentioned having sex: Boosting mood and relieving depression, duty, enhancement of power, enhancement of self-concept, experiencing the power of one’s partner, feeling loved by your partner, fostering jealousy, improve reputation or social status, making money, making babies, need for affection, nurturance, partner novelty, peer pressure or pressure from partner, pleasure, reduce sex drive, revenge, sexual curiosity, showing love, spiritual transcendence.
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+ The Best Sex of My Life: “I’m a lesbian. I paid a woman for sex and it was the best I’ve ever had in my life.” Solid opening sentence and the rest really won’t disappoint:
“I had a shower and we got to it. And let me just say: if you want something done right, you should really go to a professional. This was a completely different category of sexual experience. I felt things I didn’t even know my body could feel. She picked me up off the floor — she’s small but powerful — slung my legs around her waist and slammed me against the wall, kissing me. It was fucking incredible. And that was just the start.”
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+ Feminist pornographer Tristan Taormino talks about being a woman in a male-dominated industry: I am the only woman in the room, and I am the only woman with clothes on. And that sort of says it all, right?
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+ Sex Week at Harvard is coming up. Will it be as good as Sex Week at Yale? Will it have anything as awesome as this? I guess we’ll all have to wait and see!
via queerbrownxx.tumblr.com/+ At last somebody has taken the time to explain how dinosaurs have sex.
+ I bet all your life you’ve wanted to see pictures of waitresses from The Heart Attack Grill with their tits out. And one can never get enough Hooters.
+ Last week we interviewed Rachel Kramer-Bussel. I bet you’ve been wondering what turns her on.
+ This woman apparently has two entire vaginas. Yup, just this woman and her two vaginas.
+ 1950s glamor: Twenty-First Century Pin-Ups
+ Esquire is declaring Kate Upton a woman they love, they have some things to say about it too.
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+ Sex Advice from Women’s Studies Professors:
If “The Judith Butler” was a sex position, what would it look like?
Something like a complicated knot system where one person is tied up and the other is dominating them. I don’t have an “insert penis here” because I think there would be multiple accoutrements. I think it would be incredibly complicated and difficult to deconstruct.
+ Democrats and Republicans have very different things that they look for in a partner:
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That is probably the best use of a vibrator I’ve ever heard of. Please invite me to more of your parties.
That chart makes me wonder why anyone would choose the lifestyle of shame and social isolation that being a Republican entails.
How, exactly, are you reading shame and social isolation? In fact, that is never mentioned on the chart, period. It is mentioned that Republicans are more marriage minded, and more into having someone with the same views as them, but there is NOTHING about shame or isolation.
Also, the chart is not an appeals to appeals comparison. It should be, “71% of Democrats think it is important for a partner to respect them, X percent of Republicans think it is important for a partner to respect them” etc to really illuminate the differences on the same issues.
I just in no way see how you reach your conclusion about shame and isolation based on the chart.
I think someone missed the joke.
I was actually thinking “Someone missed their meds”..But “joke” works
Digger, all the comments you have made on the articles lately on here make me laugh that lately I go to the comments to see your comments.. Lol I mean this in the least creepy way possible!
SCORE!!
I want to frame the first photo and hang it in my living room.
I’m bringing the Risque Rollers sex dice to A-camp!
D.I.N.O.S.A.U.R.S.
dinofuckingsours
or rather dinosaursfucking
DINOSAURS dinosaurs DINOsaurs
Buffalo buffalo Buffalo buffalo buffalo buffalo Buffalo buffalo?
Sun-Day Brightened.
Um playing with this kit sounds kind of like the most fun thing ever. Just gonna think about this for awhile whilst completing my Daydreaming about Sex iTunes playlist
That article about hiring a sex worker was brilliant!
agree!
I really disagree. This author is saying that women should hire sex workers because they deserve someone to just be there to serve their needs and exist purely for their own pleasure. That is such an entitled perspective that negates the importance of consent in sex. A woman hiring a sex worker is not subverting patriarchy. She is acting upon internalized patriarchy just switching the power to herself. A woman is still being oppressed in this model. The sex worker is still not liberated through this exchange. And our liberation must come for all of us, not just the most privileged and entitled of us. That’s my perspective as a former sex worker whose clients were both men and women. Of course I enjoyed the women clients more. But that does not mean that being with them was any more empowering or less (to be totally honest) emotionally painful and alienating and unable to ever be truly consensual.
I feel as though there should be a secret sign two people can give to one another when they just want to hve sex immediately… Like sometimes you meet someone in a bar and you just want to be like “Can we just get down to business?”
Then they start talking to you about how they hate their job or lack thereof and you’re like le sigh.
I want this sign to be something like having a red scarf tied around your right wrist….
This! I expressed similar frustration to a friend recently and she was like “You’re such a..guy” Yeah..Well..So the fuck what! Red scarf..Right hand..Love this!
Me and my best friend thought we should install traffic lights on people. So when someone starts to talk to you you see green and you can stop the conversation part and get to the point, you see yellow you talk a little more until the light gets green, you see red, you change person. It would make it all way more easy.
I’ve been to a bar event/party years ago that used a different sort of traffic light system – red sticker dots meant partnered, yellow meant single but not looking, and green meant single and available.
Not exactly a “throw me down and take me here” signal, but it was a little more clear what people’s intentions were. Except that the majority of the women there were wearing yellow dots and standing around trying to look disaffected like they actually weren’t looking for partners when they in fact were scoping out all the other women with yellow dots, trying to figure out how to pick them up.
I was, of course, one of the few dorks wearing a green dot, which made me look desperate. :) But honest, at least.
That’s awesome! Anyway yellow color shouldn’t have existed. Nobody’s is single and not looking, it’s either “I’m playing hard to get” or “I just want to have casual sex,but will not admit it”. Be proud of being a green! :D
You gays, COME ON! The hanky code, anyone?!
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Handkerchief_code
http://www.leathernjonline.com/hanky.htm
This actually became a thing in my community for a while after a big queer kink event brought it roaring back to young radical queers.
Somehow, I don’t think I’d look terribly sexy carrying around the chart I’d need in order to define all the colors/placements/meanings
Sex week at Yale. Sex week at Harvard. I’m at Princeton right now, and I think the chances of us having a sex week are pretty much zero. Ivy fail.
Or, perhaps the left hand… There could be an array of scarf colours alluding to different meanings…?
Done: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Handkerchief_code
Ah, when you think you have a really good idea and it been done :)
I feel like this trend should come back… In queer hipster style! But like, what if you need to blow your nose? What then?
I never realized how fascinated I am by Dino-sex…or should I say by the fact that someone has a career in figuring out the mechanics of said Dino-sex.
Also, is anyone else compelled to play Pictionary with the chocolate paint?
WAIT…How did I miss the woman with two vaginas on my first read through? So many feelings right now..Like when I used to wish women had a third breast in the middle of their back..You know..For when we’re dancing
Lol! I knew someone with a third boob but it wasn’t on their back lol
Imagine not knowing..And just discovering it while exploring..Knowing she’s out there..I’m so happy I think I might cry
That’s like finding the hidden treasure of some goddess.. It’s very rare but I found it sooooooooo interesting, I was like a little science nerd who discovered the most incredible thing ever lol
And like other scientific discoveries, did you get to name it after yourself…Does she tell people “This is my third breast, “Tori””?
I totally wish she would name her third breast after me but unfortunately she claimed her three breast were the 3 musketeers lol
Ahh..To be that “one” in the “All for one…”
Top-notch pics this week, y’all.
*is a shameless horndog*
Which Suicide girl is that? She has a Le Petit Prince tattoo!! :)
women “very well may also derive pleasure from the act” are you fucking kidding me?
Or so it’s been my experience…
Are they surveying straight women there? Because several of the straight women I know are partnered with guys who don’t know the first thing about fucking them properly, and they say things like “well, I love him, and the sex is okay…” meaning he’s never found her g-spot and couldn’t pay attention to her clitoris if he tried.
I have learned over the years to keep my mouth shut after hearing this, because trying to tell straight women to go out and demand their orgasms can make your friendships fraught with peril.
Also, I have been single for an obscenely long time, and also live in the middle of nowhere (i.e. lots of homophobes and no gay bars), so Lesbosexy Sunday might as well be called Sexual Frustration Sunday.
Still love it though!
I can sympathize..I’ve lived under those conditions in Alaska, Virginia, And the Carolinas..Back in NJ now but still in the middle of the Lesbian Bermuda Triangle!
Yeah, I hail from the Carolinas, and while I love this state for other reasons, the queer life is… distinctly lacking.
Here’s to getting out of the Lesbian Bermuda Triangle at some point!
That lady with the 2 vaginas gets 2 periods a month. Think about how annoying and expensive that would be.
Wait, it might not be that bad, actually. When one vag is going through shark week, you could just plug ‘er up and play with the other one.
Shit, I’m jealous.
From a story I read about another woman who had 2 vaginas, she had 1 period per month, but she had to use a tampon for each vagina, which is how she figured it out; she kept bleeding even though she had inserted one. Her mother took her to the doctor and they sorted it out, but it was really difficult.
Loved the sex worker article, except this part: “This was amazing, mind-blowing sex. The kind of sex men get to have: lusty, hot, powerful, penetrating.”
Umm, anyone else here have that kind of sex, despite not being a man or being with a man…??