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One of the most amazing parts of a women’s studies education is the opportunity to put names to problems. The phenomena of women struggling with “the problem that had no name” is one that persists, even today: we experience discrimination, harassment, inequality, disempowerment, and oppression, but we struggle to define it, label it, or successfully articulate why it was wrong without the vocabulary to do so. As I’m sure you’ve learned from Tumblr, one of the most integral pieces of that vocabulary is the juggernaut: “privilege.” It’s common now, when we spot inequities, to label the unfortunate consequences points of “oppression,” and we’re very quick to assume the root cause of those inequities is, thus, a form of “privilege.” But sometimes it’s a little more complicated than that. There’s a universe in between and a lot of components that make privilege and oppression real things, and it’s fundamental to understand them.
The problem with broad application of these terms outside of their intended meaning is that they diminish their real truths. Privilege and oppression are part of a spectrum of disempowerment and cultural norms, and the stuff in between is just as important. Some stuff sucks and is uncomfortable, but isn’t oppression. Some people have had super easy lives, but not necessarily because they’re in a culturally privileged social group.
So, students, let’s talk today about privilege, oppression, and the building blocks that make them possible in our fucked-up world. Since this is a massive lesson, it will happen in a two-lecture series. This week, we’ll define privilege and oppression, examine the smaller components of injustice that allow them to flourish, and differentiate between them all. In our next session, we’ll break down how privilege and oppression work as mechanized parts of our social structure. We’ll also examine what is and isn’t privilege. Make sure you stay tuned!
The Five-Second History of “Privilege”
Privilege as we understand it was first discussed by W.E.B. Du Bois in the early 1900s. Du Bois pioneered the practice of putting an intellectual lens on the more powerful group instead of only the marginalized when he wrote “The Souls of White Folks” in 1910. In 1935, he discussed what he called the “wages of whiteness” — rights and courtesies that white people experienced but were not afforded to Black people. “White-skin privilege” also became part of the conversation for civil rights activists during the 1960s.
It took a longer time for these ideas and terms to permeate academia and later, public consciousness. Although academics have long observed discrimination and analyzed marginalization, the term “privilege” gained widespread use after a 1988 essay by Peggy McIntosh in which she documented 46 ways in which she experienced the world differently than people of color.
The hallmark publication, in which McIntosh “unpacks the invisible knapsack” of her own privilege and the male privileges which she, as a woman, cannot access, reframed sociological conversations about inequality by focusing on the unearned assets, access, and advantages imparted upon those who benefit from those systems of inequity. In other words, her essay spurred the understanding of the world women’s studies now espouses and imparts on its students: that even as opportunities grow and inequality diminishes, systems of privilege and oppression keep different social groups on different footing outside of individual factors like motivation, intelligence, skill, and expertise.
I repeatedly forgot each of the realizations on this list until I wrote it down. For me white privilege has turned out to be an elusive and fugitive subject. The pressure to avoid it is great, for in facing it I must give up the myth of meritocracy. If these things are true, this is not such a free country; one’s life is not what one makes it; many doors open for certain people through no virtues of their own.
What Privilege and Oppression Are
“Privilege” encompasses exclusive rights and resources only made available to members of a specific social group. Some academics define privilege as being something one is born into, and others also define it as something one can access through different avenues (race, for example, is a biological category that one can’t alter, whereas completing higher education can move folks between social groups). Either way, individuals can have access to various kinds of social privilege at any time, and so it can be hard to narrowly define or specifically outline the fruits of those privileges at a glance. Just like oppression is connected — and, in many ways, invisibly so — privilege exists throughout the networks of our identities, and different privileges may play into one another or coexist alongside alongside our own oppressions. Someone could benefit from white privilege and have access to legal resources, authority in their field, and physical safety in situations that people of color don’t, but still suffer from discrimination, harassment, and even violence as a woman or a queer person. Having access to white privilege doesn’t mean someone can’t also suffer from the oppression of being queer or a woman or poor. It’s the ability to see interlocking privilege and oppression that has led us from “the patriarchy” — a term used to describe a world dominated by men and masculine influence — to “the kyriarchy” — a term used to describe a world where social class, race, national origin, age, and other factors just as wildly impact our social status as our gender.
Although the word “privilege” may make one think of luxuries, often what comes along with it for members of different groups are basic rights. In McIntosh’s essay, a lot of the benefits she observes about being white include access to education, being treated with respect by the justice system, and other experiences that should be widely accessible to all in a just society. Other results of privilege, however, are sort of “bonuses” – members of the group don’t need them to survive, but feel they deserve them nonetheless and get defensive about them if folks try to take them away. (Think men’s socially permitted entitlement to women’s bodies.) Because of the psychological impact of socialization and the widely accepted cultural norms that reinforce privilege and oppression, members of privileged groups often don’t even realize that what they’ve experienced isn’t always something they’ve necessarily earned on their own individual merits.
As McIntosh observed:
I see a pattern running through the matrix of white privilege, a patter of assumptions that were passed on to me as a white person. There was one main piece of cultural turf; it was my own turf, and I was among those who could control the turf. My skin color was an asset for any move I was educated to want to make. I could think of myself as belonging in major ways and of making social systems work for me. I could freely disparage, fear, neglect, or be oblivious to anything outside of the dominant cultural forms. Being of the main culture, I could also criticize it fairly freely.
In proportion as my racial group was being made confident, comfortable, and oblivious, other groups were likely being made unconfident, uncomfortable, and alienated. Whiteness protected me from many kinds of hostility, distress, and violence, which I was being subtly trained to visit, in turn, upon people of color.
For this reason, the word “privilege” now seems to me misleading. We usually think of privilege as being a favored state, whether earned or conferred by birth or luck. Yet some of the conditions I have described here work systematically to over empower certain groups. Such privilege simply confers dominance because of one’s race or sex.
What she touches on here is that privilege is part of a larger “matrix of power” that all human beings find themselves living among, no matter their relative social status. In order for privilege to work, it needs a whole structure of social power surrounding it.
Scholars have illustrate the relationship of the privileged and oppressed as that of “agents” of privilege limiting, consciously or unconsciously, access to their privileges to specific “targets.” In other words, white people are agents of white privilege — and the system they are implicit in and benefiting from systematically limits access to different rights and resources to people of color, the “targets” of their privilege. Even the best of allies will benefit from a social system of domination throughout their lives.
That’s where oppression comes into play: just as privilege confers special luxuries and basic rights exclusively to certain social groups, oppression denies those same things to the “other.” Oppression and privilege go hand-in-hand. because those with privilege are participants in a social structure that uses that privilege specifically to limit the opportunities or resources of another group. To categorize an action or trend as socially oppressing, according to Marilyn Frye’s definition, requires being able to identify a corresponding benefit for that behavior to a social group:
Cages. Consider a birdcage. If you look very closely at just one wire in the cage, you cannot see the other wires. If your conception of what is before you is determined by this myopic focus, you could look at that one wire, up and down the length of it, and be unable to see why a bird would not just fly around the wire any time it wanted to go somewhere… As the cageness of the birdcage is a macroscopic phenomenon, the oppressiveness of the situations in which women live our various and different lives is a macroscopic phenomenon. Neither can be seen from a microscopic perspective. But when you look macroscopically you can see it – a network of forces and barriers which are systematically related and which conspire to the immobilization, reduction and molding of women and the lives we live.
(We’ll discuss Frye’s definition more next time, as we dig in to what the system of privilege and oppression looks like and what is encompassed within it, but the main takeaway here is that privilege and oppression can be seen in micro and individual experiences, but those experiences need to be a part of a larger system in order to qualify as examples of privilege and oppression themselves.)
In order to better understand the matrix of power that privilege and oppression rely on, you need to understand the building blocks. Privilege and oppression are not systems founded on an individual level, because by nature they identify broad experiences impacting entire groups of people based on an aspect of their identity. Instead, privilege and oppression rely on a lopsided social order that is created, upheld, and borne from power, prejudice, bigotry, discrimination, and inequality. These components, at various levels and in different ways, create and shape the structures that keep privilege in place and oppression occurring.
The Building Blocks
Power
Power is a mechanism for social domination. There are different types of power: cultural power, personal power, and institutional power. When all three overlap, systemic power is formed. Folks, social groups, organizations, and institutions with power have the ability to shape cultural discourse, lend authority to different ideas, and, often, seek out a platform to do both. They can construct their own reality and, sometimes, influence the realities of other people.
A good example of power is that of the majority white, male Congress that represents the diverse nation of America. Cis, straight, white dudes have the ability to legislate and pontificate about everyone else, and it can be hard for us to talk back. When their power influences how government and other public institutions run, they have the ability to reinforce oppression through systemic power by using their own persona, cultural, and institutional power to shape the realities of other people’s lives.
Prejudice
A prejudice is a judgement made without facts. In this context, “prejudice” refers to negative biases or evaluations of groups of people that are unfounded in reality or rational thought. Prejudices can be harbored by anyone, and can have their root in folklore, social myths, religious values, individual experiences, or stereotypes and generalizations. That being said, not everyone with a prejudice will act on that prejudice — nor will everyone with a prejudice be able to negatively impact a group simply by holding a negative belief about them. We see prejudice everyday in the form of stereotypes and generalizations and even common tropes. Dumb blondes, universally genius Asians, and women who can’t drive are all mythology created by prejudice.
Bigotry
Bigotry is what happens when people with prejudices allow those pre-judgements to color their interactions with other people and their other behavior and beliefs. Anyone can be a bigot and act in a bigoted way, just as anyone can harbor prejudice. You do not need any form of power to be prejudiced or bigoted. We all have bigoted relatives, right? Like, the grandfather who literally refuses to listen to anyone talk about anything because of his preconceived notions of what people’s lives are like. That’s bigotry. When he takes it to the next level and treats your girlfriend like shit, his prejudices against queer people become bigotry.
Inequality
Inequality is, simply, the opposite of equality. When resources, rights, and access are distributed exclusively due to prejudice, bigotry, and discrimination, inequality blooms. There’s a big difference between “inequality” and “unfairness,” and what’s key is that inequality reinforces prejudice and impacts entire groups of people, though how that inequality impacts them may look entirely different from person-to-person. Structural inequalities make it hard, for instance, for women to succeed like men in the workplace: double standards for behavior, a persistent wage gap, and socially permitted sexual harassment can push women out of their jobs or otherwise limit their opportunities.
Discrimination
Discrimination is the act of denying groups of people rights or access that others widely have based on prejudices about them, and thus can be exerted on individual members of that group or the group on a whole. Senators discriminate against queer couples en masse when they vote to deny us marriage rights, but business owners make that shit personal when they refuse to host our ceremonies or take pictures of our adorable flower grrls on the big day.
The Differences Between These Different Things
What makes each of these terms important is that they both play into each other and exist outside of one another, but the combinations of how make a huge difference. Men can oppress women by using power conferred to them via male privilege to discriminate against women due to their own prejudices about them, but women who express bigoted ideas toward men have neither the power nor privilege to impact men’s lives socially through those ideas; when white folks act in a bigoted way, it reinforces discrimination and inequality toward people of color, but black women likely have no access to the resources necessary to reverse that impact even if their prejudices make them desire to do so.
Many of the concepts above can also be observed on a micro level, whereas privilege and oppression, as we discussed before, are large systems that make the most sense when observed broadly by group membership and not individual experience. An individual can change their prejudices or recant their bigotry, but privilege and oppression have to do with enormous social systems, and it takes actual widespread societal change to get rid of them. Even if an individual privileged person is very active and committed to ending oppression, that doesn’t erase their privilege — social systems are still set up to benefit them. Likewise, it’s important to remember that it isn’t just individuals that perpetuate inequality and discrimination – it’s the accepted social norms that allow them to exercise their privilege in an oppressive way that creates social problems. Privilege and oppression aren’t just the sum of one or two acts, and even the nicest person with privilege cannot rid themselves of its implications. Whether consciously or unconsciously, folks with privilege are part of systems that oppress others. When people with privilege don’t actively work to be aware of how their privilege is affecting their lives, they’re perpetuating these problems by taking the advantages of their social position for granted, and not working to extend their resources and rights to others.
What should also stand out is that privilege and oppression, alone, are the most powerful forces listed above. We all possess, in some ways, social power and prejudice, but neither will alleviate us of our oppression or alter our privilege. Likewise, it should be pretty clear from the definitions that these factors create and feed into not only the others, but the entire system of privilege and oppression as a whole. The building blocks don’t just go away once they are identified as parts of the larger system; rather, the system can then enable them or popularize them and they can in turn further the validity of the system using their own influence.
Let’s examine, for example, racism. Racism is a system of oppression of which white privilege is a part. White folks’ combination of power and prejudice creates the racism that people of color experience. Because white folks are in a position of power, their bigotry plays into that system and perpetuates social norms that breed discrimination and inequality for people of color. Those people of color are thus oppressed, because they lack access to the systems of power enabling that discrimination and inequality and cannot work through the same means to disempower white folks or to merely even the playing field.
Privilege and oppression are solar systems, whereas discrimination, inequality, power, prejudice, and bigotry are just planets. Sure, those planets have moons. Sure, those planets have gravitational pull. Even ants make an impact, after all. But when we discuss privilege, and when we cite our own oppression, it’s important to notice the distinctions between these elements and be accurate about whether we’re living on the planet or looking at the solar system from space.
Readings For This Unit
- “Oppression and the use of definition.” Frye, Marilyn. Permalink.
- “What Is Privilege?” Handout from Create Wisconsin. Permalink.
- “White Privilege and Male Privilege: A Personal Account of Coming to See Correspondences Through Work in Women’s Studies.” McIntosh, Peggy. Permalink.
- “Explaining White Privilege To A Broke White Person.” Crosley-Corcoran, Gina. Permalink.
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Would it be inappropriate to print this out and send it to my grandpa??
i’d give you extra credit in this course if you did
This was amazing! I’ve learned so much. Thanks, Camen!
*Carmen! Sorry.
“Like, the grandfather who literally refuses to listen to anyone talk about anything because of his preconceived notions of what people’s lives are like. That’s bigotry. When he takes it to the next level and treats your girlfriend like shit, his prejudices against queer people become bigotry.”
I think there is a mix up with words in this paragraph, shouldn’t it be “That’s prejudice.” ?
Either way, loved the article! I second the sending to grandparents thing.
I love this series! Carmen is the best teacher.
I really appreciate this series. If I thought they would actually read it, I would be sending this article to certain family members and random acquaintances who just don’t get things – but maybe I can use some of the explanations here the next time a conversation goes in that direction.
Oh hey, maybe this will be a good spot to try and hash out this question I’ve had about prejudice vs bigotry etc etc.
So a common way I see of people trying to define the difference between prejudice and power-backed bigotry is the “hurt feelings” trope. E.g. when a Black person calls a White person “cracker”, the worst that can happen is that the White person’s feelings have been hurt. But the other way would be part of structural racism and therefore more potent.
(So I’ve seen it explained, anyway; I may be a little off.)
So my question/concern/qualm here is that this comparison seems to be playing into the idea that emotional abuse doesn’t count as a abuse. “it’s just feelings.” “it’s just words.” etc. So often I see oppression being defined in terms of physical violence – like it doesn’t count until bones are broken.
I mean, hell, the various factors of my identity that would normally make me a target of physical violence, such as my race/gender/sexuality/nationality, are mitigated a great deal from having enough class privilege to protect myself. So in some ways the worst that could happen is verbal abuse. But that doesn’t make the power dynamics any less oppressive – it plays into Power + Prejudice, as well as structural bigotry, and can have overarching consequences.
Is there another way we can frame this difference without playing into ideas of physical violence being the only type of violence that counts?
hmmmm, thanks for raising this question – I think about it a lot in terms of the “what about” and false equivalences people in positions of privilege sometimes ask about. So here are some ways I think about recognizing the oppression in bigotry in a way that don’t say “hurt feelings are ‘just’ hurt feelings.” They are all inverted variations on the themes from Carmen, “Because white folks are in a position of power, their bigotry plays into that system and perpetuates social norms that breed discrimination and inequality for people of color” and from you “so in some ways the worst that could happen is verbal abuse. But that doesn’t make the power dynamics any less oppressive.”
Some questions that assume that feelings are hurt, and that it’s a problem that feelings are hurt:
“if the target were to retaliate because their feelings are hurt, does their position mean that in retaliating they are likely to put themselves at even more risk? or will those in power take their side?”
“when the episode in which this person’s feelings were hurt ends, are they likely to experience more of the same from people in positions of power? or not?”
“what history does this action invoke?”
“do these hurt feelings reinforce this person’s position in the power complex, or not?”
Even if we call the action abuse and recognize hurt feelings as a problem, for me the answers to these questions distinguish between ‘hurt feelings’ and bigotry that plays into power.
My spin comes from me thinking through an experience of my mother’s: While growing up white and South Asian, in 1960s New England, she was targetted with the n word a couple of times. However, this was in the context of her usually having race privilege. She didn’t experience it as oppression, only as the other person’s bigotry being exposed. She didn’t have a lot of experiences of oppression for the racial slur to multiply. Not only that, but her own position helped her fight back: when she punched a kid in the nose, she won (rather than risking her life). So . . . for a person who usually walks around with white privilege to be called ‘cracker’ by a person of color may in the moment experience verbal abuse – the action can be wrong in that way – but the (white) target is not oppressed by that abuse because there are relatively fewer and smaller, or arguably no, experiences that are multiplied by a derisive name for their position of power AND because if they retaliate, the judgement of the powerful is likely on their side.
So here’s how I understand it. A white person being called a cracker is an isolated experience. It’s probably not going to happen to them on the regular, if ever again. It’s likely an isolated experience so it doesn’t quite constitute emotional abuse as you’ve compared it to.
For people of color, there is a culture backed up with physical power that is constantly telling them they’re less than, ugly, and suspicious. So it’s not that white people experience emotional prejudice and people of color experience physical prejudice. It’s that white people have occasional hurt feelings and people of color experience emotional and physical violence from people in power.
I hope this helps! Please let me know if it doesn’t =)
The only problem I have with your comment is that I don’t really see the separation between “hurt feelings” and “emotional violence” as necessary, and I am being reminded of how a lot of emotional violence gets dismissed as “hurt feelings”. Hence my question about whether there’s a way to get away from the emotional-violence-comparison thing altogether when talking about privilege.
Ok, I’ll give it a shot. How about this:
Words can be damaging in and of themselves, even without physical violence entering into the equation.
Much damaging language involves lying about something or someone (i.e. fraud, slander). For example, when you use a racial or sexist slur against someone, you are telling the lie that they are not a person.
The key point then, I think, is that the magnitude of damage depends heavily upon the degree to which the lie is believed. And, credibility is one of the most precious benefits of priviledge.
So, if you have privilege and you tell someone they are not a person, it is much more damaging, because you are much more likely to be believed.
This was very good. I’d love to see about a followup of practical do’s and don’ts for using privilege discourse in everyday life. I’ve certainly learned a ton from Peggy McIntosh and the gang but I also think privilege discourse has failed in the way it’s applied in radical movements, particularly in offering nuanced understandings of intersectionality.
People trot out problematic privilege checklists and compete with each other (I’ve found this to be especially true of *certain* gay vs bi quarrels) and there’s ironically a privileging of the educated in the discourse itself. The phrase ‘check your privilege’ is often deployed at people who genuinely don’t understand what it means, which automatically puts them on the defensive instead of making them reconsider actions/words.
The backlash against acknowledgement of privilege seems to get a lot of mileage out of its inaccessibility to people without an arts degree. One thing that I found striking in discussions of Ferguson is that I’ve had a far more productive time describing white privilege in the context of police interaction without using the word ‘privilege’ itself. I feel like the concepts remain really compelling but there have been issues with the way we talk about it on the ground.
” ‘What is privilege,’ you ask? Here’s a concise, well-worded explanation of what it is and why it matters.”
Thank you thank you thank you!
I agree with donnamartingraduates. There are some problems with how we use the term privilege, and that’s why people with privilege have so many problems with it.
I think one of the biggest problems with the concept of privilege is that we frame it in a way that makes it impossible for allies to escape. It is really difficult to sell people on a set of monumental injustices and then tell them that they aren’t able or allowed to stop being part of those injustices. You can work productively against racism, or gender inequality, or class favoritism/inequality, but you can never escape privilege. That’s why so many people with privilege really hate the word, I think.
With that in mind, there are some problems with how we talk about privilege. It is all well and good to remind people that oppressed people experience life differently, but “check your privilege” is often not used in helpful ways. For one, as a societal level construct, privilege cannot be checked or stopped by one person. Either we can control our privilege or we cannot: what you’re really asking is that they stop being entitled or racist, or any number of other behaviors. Of course, there are also the people who end their arguments with “check your privilege” as a way of calling someone an entitled asshole in a way that they can’t argue with or they’ll immediately be called racist or sexist. Or even worse, I’ve seen “check your privilege” used as a way to tell people of privilege that they aren’t allowed to think about or discuss issues like racism or sexism because they’re privileged. And on a related note, I also have issues with the commonly used “you would agree if only you actually LISTENED to us underprivileged people”. What that pretty much says is that
1) “You would agree with me if you weren’t racist or sexist.”
2) “You haven’t understood anything I was saying”
3) “If you understood what I just said, you would agree completely with everything I believe.”
In conclusion: the “if you only listened argument” is actually saying: “It would be impossible for any intelligent human to disagree with any part of what I just said, the only reason you don’t agree with my beliefs is because you are a horrible, oblivious, and stupid person.”
It is true that there are massive gaps between what privileged people know about injustices faced by underprivileged people, for example tons of white people were totally shocked by what happened in Ferguson. And yes, there are some situations in which better communication would actually fix the disagreement. But it’s utterly dishonest to apply the phrase as often as I see it used even just on Autostraddle. It doesn’t particularly add anything to the argument, and all it’s really good for most of the time is telling the person with privilege that you don’t really think of them as a person who has the ability to think of their own opinions.
Hi Azra,
I can understand where you’re coming from but I’m not sure it’s such a bad thing to accept that we can’t escape the privileges we have. I have plenty of privilege and I don’t think that to acknowledge that is to assume I’m a bad person or have nothing of relevance to say, just that I tread carefully before making generalizations about experiences I can’t speak to. The privilege that I do have, as a white middle class person raised by a white father who felt entitled to speak authoritatively about every subject under the sun, has pointed me in obnoxious directions despite my best intentions. It was by learning about white/class privilege that I learned to reflect on my own assumptions and I’m a better person for it. My argument is that the way we discuss privilege has to be accessible and as compassionate as possible.
The main problem is the way that privilege discourse uses language that is only comprehensible to a very narrow subset of the population and is used in a confrontational way by people who are rightfully exhausted and frustrated. Most of the time, when I see ‘check your privilege’ deployed, I think the issue is the delivery, not the substance. ‘Check your privilege’ is confrontational, whereas ‘I’d like you to consider how your own viewpoint is impacted by the fact that as a person without a uterus you will never have to cope with an unplanned pregnancy’ is more effective. But diplomacy and compassion can be harder to come by for people who are incredibly exhausted by the racism or misogyny they face on a daily basis. In my experience, the less than productive ‘check your privilege’ usually comes out when the other person actually hasn’t been listening or questioning their entitlement.
To continue using the example of whiteness, (and to be clear I’m not assuming you are white, it’s just that I am so it’s a familiar reference point) it’s not that white privilege makes it impossible for a white person to have an opinion, but that white people really don’t comprehend the experience of being dehumanized by a white supremacist society. Yet the vast majority of white people talk about racism as if we know it as intimately as POC. We don’t. The blunt end of racism is a city we’ve never visited, so why would we pretend to know it as well as the people who live there?
OMG YES on the “if you only checked your privilege you will agree with me!” argument. Mostly because I’ve seen it applied horizontally – there have been times where I’ve disagreed with the prevailing POC argument, mostly due to my own experiences with the topic, only to be accused of “acting like a White feminist”. You can’t even disagree with your own kind!
If you haven’t read it already, check out Andrea Smith’s “The Problem With “Privilege””, which is about how the focus on privilege ironically enables oppressive behavior (turning it into a numbers game):
http://andrea366.wordpress.com/2013/08/14/the-problem-with-privilege-by-andrea-smith/
Thanks a lot for this link!
I had trouble understanding some more abstract points of the essay, when the author speaks about how to create alternatives, but I think I’ll be mulling over it for some time. I really felt a dawning when the author named and exposed things that I felt were strange or dysfunctional in anti-racist/anti-oppressive circles, but didn’t know how to explain.
This essay is really a keeper.
(I just wanted to add I have a lot of admiration and appreciation for your comments and reflections on this site. Also I wanted to thank you for the time you gave me a heart when I spilled my guts and really needed it. <3)
such a good essay
am I the only person who has a problem with the conflation of basic rights and entitlements/”luxuries” as both falling under the category of “privilege”?
it doesn’t seem to me that the ability to walk down a street safely or to hold hands in public is a privilege – these are simply basic rights that all should have. just because some people can do these things doesn’t make them privileged, they’re just living the normal condition that all should share. oppression doesn’t always imply a privileged opposite. I find this lumping together of two very different conditions an unhelpful oversimplification of the argument.
that’s actually how privilege works, as i explained in the piece. some things folks get because they’re “privileged” are things we all deserve or, really, need to survive. other things are simply socially determined “bonuses.” men are privileged because they don’t spend their waking moments thinking about danger when they’re walking home at night, and women deserve that, too. but men are also culturally permitted to express entitlement toward women’s bodies, which is a facet of their privilege that simply needs to be destroyed.
sometimes, these things go hand-in-hand. a man, for example, might be earn more money in a starting position than a woman based on his gender. let’s go ahead and say he was offered more and also asked for more once he was offered the job, and received all the money. that’s an undeserved “bonus” of being a man, whereas the right of a man to negotiate his wage without fearing repercussion (which women often can’t) is a right all folks should feel they can access, but don’t.
The definition of privilege in the context of feminism differs somewhat from everyday usage (just like ‘prime’ means something different in the context of mathematics). There’s a nice concise summary here: http://geekfeminism.wikia.com/wiki/Privilege
just chiming in to say i really appreciate this piece and the discussion in the comments.
Maybe it’s just me, but fortunately it kind of seems like the “blonde stereotype” is “dying” out. The jokes are not as strong as they use to be, and it seems more and more people aren’t singling out hair color when it comes to people anymore. I don’t know, maybe I’m wrong, but it really does seem like more and more people these days are realizing how stupid that stereotype really is and I think most people have always known it’s false crap. Same with “woman drivers”. Of course the jokes still exist, which sucks, but you don’t hear it as often anymore. Is that a good thing?