Feature image of Bhuma Belle and Tinder in Crash Pad episode 170. All of the photographs in this NSFW Sunday are courtesy of Crash Pad Series. The inclusion of a photograph here should not be interpreted as an assertion of the model’s gender identity or sexual orientation. If you’re a photographer or model and think your work would be a good fit for NSFW Sunday, please email carolyn at autostraddle dot com.
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Chocolate Chip and Nikki Darling in Crash Pad Series episode 152
+ Being cheated on is bad for your emotional and physical wellbeing, especially if you blame yourself, according to a new study published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships:
“According to the study’s results, noninvolved partners (the folks who were cheated on) were more likely to blame the partner than themselves, and reported more symptoms of depression, anxiety, and distress following the infidelity. They also reported more health-compromising behaviors: the most frequent were eating less or not at all (45 percent), alcohol use (44 percent), over-exercising (29 percent), having sex while high or drunk (27 percent) and marijuana use (19 percent).
‘Engaging in these types of health-compromising behaviors might be explained as an attempt to cope with the infidelity by decreasing their negative feelings and increasing positive emotions,’ the study suggests.”
Kimberly Kills and Sparky Sin Claire in Crash Pad episode 101
+ Long fake nails don’t always mean lesbian porn isn’t “real.”
+ If you feel anxious, it’s harder to figure out what other people are feeling.
+ “I’m an adult woman with the ability to have secret orgasms at the gym, and that’s sort of a highlight in a fairly average life,” writes Patia Braithwaite at Tonic on why some women exercise when they work out.
+ One of the great conveniences of the modern age is how vibrator ads no longer have to pretend they have something to do with health, unlike this ad from 1973.
+ “If we always threaten divorce, is our marriage doomed?”
+ Women are having orgasms earlier.
+ Alone time is good for relationships.
+ At Oh Joy Sex Toy, Erika Moen reviewed the Iroha Plus vibrators, calling them “high-quality, simple vibrators with exceptionally lovely feeling silicone.”
+ Still super into Origami Customs tbh.
Golden Curlz and Papí Coxxx in Crash Pad episode 236
+ Where do you meet single lesbians in your 40s or at any age, other than online? (Spoiler alert: eventually just try online.) Anna Pulley writes:
“[F]riends of friends make excellent ‘companionship’ partners. But bypass the whole ‘ask a friend to set you up’ awkwardness and make it casual. Invite your friends over for dinner or a movie or Triscuits and Trivial Pursuit night, and encourage them to bring people they think you’d get along with. This isn’t an explicitly romantic route, of course, but it’s all in the favor of bringing new people into your social circle. Change your routine. Be social. Go to new places. Say yes.”
Bhuma Belle and Tinder in Crash Pad episode 170
+ Etsy has a lot of really questionable vaginal “wellness” products like those wasps’ nests from a few weeks back that, y’know, have no place being inside a human body, let alone for some body-shaming bullshit reason about “tighten[ing] the vagina.” At Gizmodo, Libby Watson writes:
“Though some items come with disclaimers, there’s a whole world of products on Etsy that promise to tighten, freshen, heal, and otherwise improve your vagina: oils, herbal steam treatments, powders, all claiming to have healing or medicinal properties. And those products seem to be in violation of Etsy’s terms of service, which prohibit items making medical claims. So why are they still up?”
I didn’t eat for a week after being cheated on but it was just a bodily reaction (complete loss of appetite), not something I chose.
Now pardon me, time to hit the gym… ;)
Same–I just felt ill and couldn’t bring myself to eat anything. When I did try to eat, I’d throw up. I figured it would go away eventually and it did, so I tried to just let my body feel how it was feeling in the meantime.
*pout* wish i could have orgasms from exercising =(
I think “why some women exercise when they work out” is supposed to say “why some women *orgasm* when they work out.
I do always exercise when I work out, though!
My commitment to inclusivity does not extend to having my vagina cut to ribbons. Sorry not sorry. If you have ever experienced getting a rigorous finger banging from a girl with talons, you will have very little patience for the Crash Pad article above. There’s a reason short nails are a good queer lady tell: because getting fucked with anything else HURTS. I’m super femme and kind of sad about not getting to have long nails but guess what? My partners’ comfort matters more than my manicure whims.
Furthermore, do the girls who put cotton balls in gloves have a stash of pre-stuffed gloves just lying around? Can you buy pre-stuffed sexing gloves on Etsy? I honestly cannot imagine going home with someone and then pausing the hook-up for 10-15 minutes while they stuffed each glove.
I read the title of this aloud to my girlfriend who was in the other room and got back the question, “do they mean white anglo-saxon protestants or actual wasps?” in response.