Feature of April Flores and Milcah Halili in Crash Pad episode 234. All of the photographs in this NSFW Sunday are courtesy of the Crash Pad Series. The inclusion of a photograph here should not be interpreted as an assertion of the model’s gender identity or sexual orientation. If you’re a photographer or model and think your work would be a good fit for NSFW Sunday, please email carolyn at autostraddle dot com.
Welcome to NSFW Sunday!
+ The relationship between how much sex you’re having and how much you masturbate is complicated. According to a new study, among women who like their sex lives, more sex leads to more masturbation; among women who don’t, masturbation and sex were not related:
“So what does all of this tell us? First, it fundamentally changes the way we should think about the link between sex and masturbation. It’s much more complex than previously thought, and it’s not accurate to say that masturbation is either a substitute for or a complement to sex—instead, masturbation seems as though it can serve both roles, with the specific role it plays depending upon the person.
These findings also tell us that whether we’re likely to masturbate depends more on how we feel about our sex lives than it does on how much sex we’re actually having. In other words, how sexually active we are doesn’t matter as much as whether or not we feel like our sexual needs are being met.”
+ How many dating apps should you be on? Spoiler alert the answer is how every many you have the patience, attention span, time, and time-management skills to handle.
+ People with vaginas can wake up hard, too, as a result of REM sleep, which is probably why morning sex is one of the best kinds of sex.
+ Is sex better high, or drunk? According to a collection of experts, both seem pretty okay, but weed seems better, not least because it doesn’t come with alcohol’s side effects. Also, according to data from OKCupid, “in its own special way, weed is a gateway drug (to sex).”
+ People are really into BDSM right now. According to a report from OKCupid, 71% of members are into kink, 62% of women are into rough sex, and 51% of women are into bondage:
“[A]ccording to our sample of 400,000 OkCupid members, 71% say they’re into kink. What’s more, over half say they’re into bondage or rough sex, and nowadays BDSM is a bigger turn-on than ever. We found that 75% of men and and 62% women say they like rough sex. Turns out, “Do you prefer sex rough or gentle” is one of the most agreed-upon sex questions on all of OkCupid.”
+ The top places people have public sex are parks, beaches, public bathrooms, public parking lots or garages and at work, according to a recent survey.
+ Queer Fat Femme’s Fat Sex Week XXL continues! Here’s how to love your FUPA.
+ Ideas you might have about online dating are lies.
+ If you have a vagina, bath bombs can mess with it.
+ This Victorian-era ivory vibrator — ahem “antique carved ivory ladies companion in scarlet lined leather upholstered carry box with inset bevelled glass panel” previously belonging to “a very enlightened family” — includes carved details, a heart on the base, and space meant to hold a partner’s lock of hair. If you purchase it at auction, note that it will be impossible to sterilize.
