Hi it’s Sunday. Did you have sex last night. How was it. Welcome to the second week of “NSFW Sunday: Phoning it in Edition,” which is just temporary until it becomes radically more awesome in the near / faraway future.
Many people think “Autostraddle”, the name of this here website, is sexual. When you use the word “straddle” and “lesbian” in the same sentence, everyone’s brain seems to short-circuit, Google Instant-style, and route directly to OMG SEX ITS ABOUT SEX. But it’s not about sex! It comes from a POEM (Robert Frost) and two BLOGS (“the road best straddled” and “autowin”) and a bunch of other things, including ancient Chinese folklore and stories I make up on the spot about where it came from. But it did not come from sex. It is not about sex.
But is autostraddle also a sexual term? Coincidentally, it is! And it has been so since Haviland Stillwell said “are you straddling me? Are you auto-straddling me?” in a vlog filmed in late 2007. Oddly enough, I was not autostraddling her, because The Autostraddle Sexual Move (it is not a position for having sex, just a “move”) requires specific elements which I will now describe.
Autostraddling has been making the rounds in select circles. So it’s time you learn how to do it right, because that’s faster than me writing this post right.
to autostraddle: Person A straddles Person B. Both of Person A’s legs should be outside of both of Person B’s legs. This is not scissoring or tribadism or intertwiny-leg-thing, this is autostraddling.
Not Autostraddling:
This is not autostraddling because only one of Person A’s legs is outside of Person B’s legs.
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Autostraddling is most successful when Person B is sitting on a couch or chair and Person A sits on top of them, like so…
or when Person B is lying on their back and Person A surprise-straddles them, like so…
There is also a variation where Person B is lying on their stomach and Person A autostraddles them on their ass, perhaps to provide an erotic massage of some kind.
The key is that Person A is either resting her weight upon Person B or Person A is supporting herself with her own hands/knees. At no point is Person B completely or evenly receiving the weight of Person A. Also Person B’s ass should be flat on the chair/bed/surface. Like so…
This is Autostraddling:
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This is Not Autostraddling:
This is not an Autostraddle because Person B’s legs are tucked under and Person A’s weight is partially distributed between the bed, her hands, and Person B.
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Kapeesh?
Because The L Word has provided more lesbian sex scenes to our community than any other TV show or movie, it’s an easy point of reference. Couples who enjoy Autostraddling include Carmen De La Pica Morales and Shane McCutcheon. Not only did Carmen and Shane love autostraddling each other, they enjoyed straddling other sexual partners, as demonstrated here in a Carmen-Jenny scene:
The “Too Hot” game, played by Carmen (Person A) and Shane (Person B), is a classic example of successful autostraddling:
Autostraddling in an Elevator, as demonstrated by Bette & Tina:
OKAY HERE
10 Ways to Autostraddle
10. Pre-Sex/Foreplay Straddle
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9. After-Sex “OMG I LOVE YOU SO MUCH” Straddle
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8. I am going to fuck your brains out with a strap-on straddle
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7. Softball Porn Straddle
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6. Street Straddle
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5. Bi-Curious Straddle
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4. Lingerie-Ad Straddle
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3. Just got home from the bar, ready to get naked straddle
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2. Let’s Just Kiss Like This For a While Because I Have to Go Home Soon and Keep Our Clothes on Because Your Parents Might Walk In Straddle
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1. High-Speed Straddle
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In Other News:
We love it when NY Magazine Sex Diaries features a lesbian. This time it’s a “40-year-old writer dealing with a commuting girlfriend” – “Finally I ask her if I can make her come and she says, “I already came while I was going down on you.”
The Globe & Mail wants to know if you’ve ever made a sex tape.
I feel like this is not the first article on this topic, but anyhow: Women Think Their Way to Orgasm, says The Times of India!
the first time i had lady sex, my first move was me autostraddling her so theres that
So, I was all prepared to yell about this being late, and then i thought these things:
-It might be late, but we know they’re not pregnant.
-It’s daylight savings
– Tea and cookies sound like a great idea.
AND THEN
I saw the autostraddling bit. and got excited, because who doesn’t love a good autostraddling.
that and the queer student union meets in a few minutes, i feel like an autostraddling tutorial is 100% required.
I spent a lot of time autostraddling and being autostraddled last night.
FUCK YEAH
RT
I like to autostraddle my girlfriend while she plays video games. Bonus points for being distracting. Negative points if she dies while distracted.
playing video games and my mom calls, bad distracting. playing video games and getting spontaneously autostraddled, good distracting! even if i die. always positive bonus points.
i would pick up the controller if i knew i’d get autostraddled
pick one up, then gimme a call.
will do.
i’d like to suggest a new comment award category called “the e award for smooth talkers”
I could dig that
Already got one! Now I’m just waiting patiently to be autostraddled.
on my way to canada, brb.
Welcome to Canada baby!
omg. i’m pretty sure i know that blond girl in #4. where is that picture from? i suppose i could just post it on her fb page and say, ‘is this you?’ but i won’t do that. because it might not be her. but i’m pretty sure it is.
Indicate in some way that she is hot.
I was kind of young when the L Word started airing, and then I heard it got awful, so I never checked it out. I may have to rethink that…
Watching The L Word is absolutely necessary for Lezbo Cultural Literacy. Get on it, so to speak—quiz next week.
Really you could just watch the first maybe four seasons of The L Word, and then Youtube the worthwhile bits from five and six, thus avoiding the Astonishing Pile of Chaiken Shit the show later became.
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Current goal in life. Complete ever one of these Autostraddle ways, whether by being straddled or by straddling. Anyone wanna join? ;)
ME ME ME :D
When and where? :D ;)
Too Hot Haiku:
Says I won’t make it
Smirking at me when I touch
I meant it I win
Scantily-clad ladies
the sensual dance of lips
then says “Lay down.. bitch.”
this.
omg. the second to last one is just…too accurate.
That last one should be renamed British Rail straddle. By the looks of that train, high – speed it ain’t.
two thumbs up for straddle number 3
“This is not autostraddling”… but it’s still really fucking hot.
Thank you AS for reminding me of that particular carmen scene. I’m finding it difficult to go back to my french theory, though.
Je straddle, tu straddles, il straddle, nous straddleons, vous straddlez, elles straddlent!
This is a very dangerous notion for my girlfriend, as I have fucking dagger hips. Like, literally they will cut you.
I’m so damn awkward. See I look skinny, but I’m squishy everywhere except for the spots where I am bony as hell. She says I am difficult to cuddle. >=/ So I’m the one who always has to do the straddling, or she gets stabbed.
I could totally get into autostraddling, the view from the bottom is awesome!
Autostraddling is HAWT. That’s about as far as my thoughts can develop after all those photos.
..um…what “wallow14” said.
LOL.
I am currently mentally weighing the value of being person a v. person b. Having serious difficulty.
Person A all the way! Hawt!
A full, experience-based exploration of both is recommended.
If you like the street straddle AND like coloring – you can color that picture.
http://illustrocity.blogspot.com/2009/05/coloring-page-12.html
Of course… this is for anyone who isn’t being straddled/straddling at the moment.
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#7 is from the very hot i love global girls 2011 lesbian calendar put out by Nadia Attura, an AMAZING photographer. I know because I’m the brunette on top :)
ps – My french fiancee is in November’s tango shoot. The couple that plays together…
The calendar is at http://www.ilovelondongirls.com – shipping is global.
update: accomplished autostraddle #3 last Thursday, inspired by this website.
Win.
The girl straddling in #2 looks exactly like me. Right down to the clothes/glasses and haircut. I’m finding it really confusing.