Feature image of Mistress Tom deFun and Blair in Crash Pad Series episode 311. All of the photographs in this NSFW Sunday are from the Crash Pad. The inclusion of a visual here should not be interpreted as an assertion of the model’s gender identity or sexual orientation. If you’re a photographer or model and think your work would be a good fit for NSFW Sunday, please email carolyn at autostraddle dot com.
Welcome to NSFW Sunday!
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Halo the GxdBody and La Muxer Diosa in Crash Pad Series episode 305
At Catapult, Britni de la Cretaz wrote about leaving their cishet marriage, queer T4T sex, armpit licking and more:
“The safety that queerness and transness has allowed me has opened up new desires within me, too. Queer sex means that anything is possible, that our bodies can do incredible things together, that there are no limits to the places we can take ourselves because our bodies do not fit within the prescribed scripts we have been given about what “having sex” entails. We can make it up as we go along and create new pleasures. I want to do things with my partner that would have felt gross with anyone else: I want to have my face licked, to be bathed in saliva. I want to open myself up and swallow his hand whole, because I want him as far inside me as he can possibly be. I want to put my face in his armpit and lick it, huffing the smell and taste of his body odor. I want to know and taste and feel all of his parts, and to give him all of mine, and to watch the ways our bodies, when entangled together, become something totally different, something that only we can ever be, only we can ever know.”
La Muxer Diosa and Zoie Blackheart in Crash Pad Series episode 281
“Have you been tested?” is the peak dating question of our time:
“‘It’s a good idea for both of you to be tested [for COVID] before being together inside,’ Tina Tessina, psychotherapist and author of Dr. Romance’s Guide to Finding Love Today, explains. She also recommends a phone pre-screen, ideally on FaceTime, to confirm not just that the person is who they say they are, but also that they’re taking basic precautions like wearing a mask. She then suggests moving on to mask dates outside, to see if there’s enough of a connection to take the next step — testing. All of this, though, comes with a crucial catch: ‘Keep in mind that testing isn’t a guarantee and either of you could turn up positive shortly after testing, but it does improve your odds.'”
Adina and Saffron in Crash Pad Series episode 303
Responding to texts with one-word answers? You might be a dry texter.
At Patreon, Ask A Sub wrote a thought exercise about public kink, in a piece I encourage you to read through to the end.
Cara Delevingne now co-owns sex toy company Lora DiCarlo.
Here are a few ways to make your at-home date nights better.
Buzzfeed (?) is releasing (??) a sex toy (???) I guess????
Asexuals could change our idea of desire.
Will there be a wave of post-election break ups?
Here’s how to have a nice solo holiday, such as the one you can have camping inside of your own home.
“The people’s history of bathing is one of shared space,” writes Christie Pearson at Lit Hub.
Tender Furiosa and Maggie McMuffin in Covid Edition: Tender Furiosa
You should keep trying in your relationships, even once you get comfortable:
“There’s a concept in psychology called ‘habituation to a stimulus,’ and I really believe the principle translates well to long-term relationships. When a person is around in a relatively unchanging way, they don’t stick out as much to you. And after a while, you can literally start to look past them. To stop really seeing them. Really experiencing them in a vivid way.
That is, unless you make an effort.”
Golden Curlz in Crash Pad Series episode 209
Does the idea of “love languages” hold up?:
“Chapman insists that love languages are a great way to form deeper connections and knowing them are vital for platonic and romantic relationships to succeed. But do they work in modern society?
Relationship expert Cheryl Muir believes so. ‘Love languages are super important,’ she tells Refinery29. ‘It’s a model that helps us understand what our needs are and how to get our needs met and the needs of other people. It’s a great way to understand ourselves and others on a practical level.’ She also doesn’t believe that love languages becoming a meme is necessarily a bad thing. ‘It’s obviously become internet slang but at least people have familiarity of the concept, and with that familiarity we can educate them further.'”
I think you mean dry texter not dry texture lol
ha thanks for the catch! (you mean one-word texters aren’t also chronically under-moisturized??)