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Living apart together sounds like the perfect relationship:
“Bromley … sees a connection between the rise of LAT relationships among millennials and the rise of polyamorous and open relationships. ‘There’s always going to be a bit of a stigma doing something that’s not the status quo, but there’s definitely a rise in people designing their own relationships now,’ she explains. ‘People are beginning to understand that there isn’t a ‘right’ and a ‘wrong’ way to have a relationship. Linda, who asked to be called by her first name only, says that she and her husband, who live in separate apartments in Chicago, have found acceptance in the polyamorous community, even though they’re not currently polyamorous themselves. ‘Most people we know think we’re trailblazing, but we don’t mean to be.”‘”
If you have a body that loves hanging out with PMS and anxiety together in a terrible chemical threesome, it’s actually totally a thing and you’re not alone. (Note that the linked piece incorrectly equates “people with periods” and “women.”):
“Could having heightened stress in general—not just when you’re PMSing—cause your PMS to be overall more panicky and anxious? Most definitely yes, said Iram Kazimi, an MD and psychiatrist with McGovern Medical School at UTHealth in Houston. ‘Any chronic stress and anxiety is believed to make PMS symptoms worse,’ Kazimi said. ‘If you’re experiencing a period of stress and anxiety before your PMS symptoms occur, this may increase your PMS symptoms, which in turn will increase your stress and anxiety symptoms.’”
Elizabeth Warren and some guy left sex workers out of their criminal justice plans:
“Every current member of the House and Senate running for president, Sanders and Warren included, has voted for FOSTA/SESTA, anti-trafficking legislation that sex workers say made it more dangerous to do their jobs. D’Adamo said a concrete discussion about what can be done on the federal level to decriminalize sex work could easily begin there, by changing their stance on the legislation and calling to reverse it.”
What’s it like to be polyamorous and then have kids?:
“Many of the polyamorous families Dr. Sheff spoke during her research placed a higher value on chosen relationships than hierarchies of biological parenthood, and some included children adopted from their local communities. ‘I’ve known several polyamorous families who have adopted either queer youth, or young people their child meets at school, when it’s clear that their home life is not working out,’ Dr. Sheff said. ‘Whether that kid is yours by procreation or not becomes much less important. Who cares? The parent is the person who shows up. The parent is the person who does the hard work and takes care of that child on an emotional and physical and practical level,’ Dr. Sheff said.
Dr. Sheff also found that polyamorous parents, biological or otherwise, can help shape their child’s understanding of sexuality by modeling honesty, communication, and mutual respect within their romantic relationships. ‘It can be incredibly difficult for young people to come by accurate and compassionate information about sexuality,’ Dr. Sheff said. ‘Polyamorous parents are often willing to provide all sorts of information.’”
