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by spencer charles

+ What happens if you try to work your way through Cosmo‘s lesbian sex positions?:

“Since I am a masochist and an overachiever, I wanted to start with some of the most difficult positions suggested. Thus, we started with “Over the Edge” (#27), which involves a fairly standard grinding of the vaginas, but with the added bonus of doing so while one person is halfway off the bed. I lasted about 30 seconds before my quads started burning unbearably (this, it turns out, would be a theme of the evening). I’d say about half of Cosmo’s positions were inspired by an editor’s frustrating Pilates class. After other “feel the burn” positions (“Kinky Jockey,” “Defying Gravity,” “Hot Hair Salon,” etc.), I had to wonder how the pleasure aspect factored in at all. How were we supposed to enjoy all the frotteurism if we were forced to do squats at the same time?

“Am I not blowing your mind?” my girlfriend asked as we attempted “Tantric Tete-A-Tete” (#17), a seated pose involving clit stimulation and a creepy amount of eye contact. “I wish you were blowing something,” I thought.”

Liu Wen by Hans Feurer for Vogue China, April 2011 via lelaid

+ People who believe relationships are a journey rather than a “meant to be” situation are more likely to be good at them, according to a new study:

“Over the long haul, any relationship is going to weather a lot. There will be good times, bad times, in-between times, and then, for lots of people, end times. What gets you through it all, except a weird mix of attraction, shared interests, and shared values (except a mortgage, children, guilt, and in-laws)? Is it really the belief that you’re with someone who is meant to be, or is it that you’ve done the crime and the time, so to speak, on the work front?

Lee called journey thinking a framing device that offers a kind of “protective function” for relationships, and that makes sense, because if you only think of your sitch as meant to be, you’d be pretty screwed come your monthly row over bills, and possibly less likely to work through it.”

Freshie Juice via prettyplussize

+ Oh Joy Sex Toy discussed yes/no/maybe lists.

+ This is what trying the cannabis lube feels like.

+ A textbook that discusses sex as if it’s a thing people have — creatively, even — and like is facing a petition that could remove it from Fremont, California, classrooms.

via women of color

+ At the Rumpus, Mitsu writes about the ten things she learned don’t exist as a dominatrix, including intimacy without vulnerability, cause-and-effect explanations for human psychology, “normal,” and agreed-upon definition of sex and more:

“People like to come up with theories to match their experiences, even if doing so means ignoring big chunks of information. As Dan Savage once described on his podcast, about half of people who are into spanking will say, “I was spanked as a child, so that’s why it turns me on to be spanked.” The other half say, “I was never spanked when I was a child, so subconsciously I always craved that kind of attention and now I’m aroused by spanking.” Sexuality is manifested in so many ways, probably as many as there are different personalities. My theory is that for some people, specific moments trigger specific kinks. For most of us, though, it’s more complicated than that.”

via rodeoh

+ Tuesday mornings are for sexting:

“Most sexting actually occurs on Tuesdays between 10 a.m. and noon, a new survey has found.

The study was conducted by Retina-X Studios, a company that develops tracking tools for computers, smartphones, tablets and networks. Besides determining the golden hour for sexting, the study — which polled 4,800 people — also revealed that iPhone users sext almost twice as frequently as Android users. That’s surprising, given Android users’ apparent affinity for nude pics.”

via the crash pad series

+ Canadian provincial police have also developed an anti-sexting app that replies to unwanted/non-consensual sexting with “Sorry, just in the middle of something… Can I reject you later” and “No, but keep taking the selfies. The cops will appreciate you making your own mugshot” as well as allowing users to instantly report sexual harassment.

via liquor in the front

+ Early sex education is more effective sex education, a new study argues:

“Very young adolescents (VYAs) between the ages of 10 and 14 represent about half of the 1.2 adolescents aged 10–19 in the world today. In lower- and middle-income countries, where most unwanted pregnancies, unsafe abortions, maternal deaths and sexually transmitted infections occur, investment in positive youth development to promote sexual and reproductive health (SRH) is increasing. Most interventions, though, focus on older adolescents, overlooking VYAs. Since early adolescence marks a critical transition between childhood and older adolescence and adulthood, setting the stage for future SRH and gendered attitudes and behaviours, targeted investment in VYAs is imperative to lay foundations for healthy future relationships and positive SRH.”

via marimacho

+ Sometimes you have to live with your ex even though you broke up:

“First, as soon as you can, become extremely comfortable with very long silences. Truthfully, this is just good advice in any relationship, not just the ones between people forced to live together against their will. You know how sometimes you’re out at a restaurant and there is a couple sitting nearby that has clearly been together for so long that they’ve literally run out of things to say to one another? And they’re just sitting there, eating their food in silence and staring longingly at you and your friends having a great time? And you and your friends just look at each other like, “Why did they even come out to dinner just to sit in silence?” Well, it turns out they’ve simply just mastered the art of being quiet. And you know what? Mad respect to you, super quiet (maybe boring) couple. Silence—and you can look this up in the dictionary—is actually just the absence of screaming at another person about your inability to depend on them.”

Olivia via the lingerie lesbian

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