Izel the Alpha and Puppy Chulo in Crash Pad Series episode 289. All of the photographs in this NSFW Sunday are from the Crash Pad. The inclusion of a visual here should not be interpreted as an assertion of the model’s gender identity or sexual orientation. If you’re a photographer or model and think your work would be a good fit for NSFW Sunday, please email carolyn at autostraddle dot com.
Welcome to NSFW Sunday!
Looking for a kink- and sex-positive therapist? Here’s where to start — and why you shouldn’t just go with any therapist who markets themselves as sex positive:
“There are increasingly emergent ways to seek out kink-aware therapists who truly account for and affirm healthy, consensual involvement in kink. Once Layla’s therapist made it clear that they would shame her queerness and BDSM practices, she decided to look elsewhere for mental healthcare. ‘I found my current therapist on the National Coalition of Sexual Freedom’s kink-friendly professionals directory,’ she said, citing a resource that includes a listing of psychotherapists, medical, and legal professionals that are knowledgeable and sensitive to diverse sexualities. ‘[My current therapist] actually specializes in all kinds of kink/sexual identity/sexuality and relationships, as well as trauma. My experience with them has been mind-blowingly different, because I can actually tell them everything about how submitting to my dom is actually [part of] taking care of myself,’ she said.
‘[My therapist] is able to help me leverage my D/S to continue my healing, and it’s really amazing,’ Layla continued. ‘So much of my comfort is in not having to be responsible for teaching someone the ‘how’ and ‘why’ of BDSM because they already understand it.’”
Here’s Estelle X on how to take great photos of yourself in lingerie, including set up, shooting, editing, and reducing the risk of sharing.
If you get a period, here’s how stress affects it.
Here’s what it’s like to run a sex shop in a pandemic.
Check out NSFW sex and fashion pandemic zine.
Everything I know about the Jada Pinkett-Smith and Will Smith situation I learned from this Bitch article, but at Elle, Theresa Okokon writes about being a unicorn involved with a married, cis-het, white couple, the power dynamics (not in a hot way) in that and more. And just in case, here’s how to peg and here’s whether it’s better to have a threesome with your partner and a friend or your partner and a stranger from the internet.
If you’re “straight” right now but just here to, you know, see what’s up or maybe someone sent you this link because you may or may not have a crush on a girl and you don’t think it’s anything but you also want to know what to do with that if it’s something, maybe more than you’ve ever wanted anything in your life, but not even like that, you just like her okay??? then please enjoy this beginner’s guide to acting on queer feelings:
“‘Coming into your queer identity later in life is completely normal and common,’ said Rae McDaniel, a Chicago-based certified sex therapist who works with people who are feeling anxious about a transition they are experiencing in sex, gender, and/or relationships. ‘We grow up in a culture that doesn’t support exploring a queer identity in the same way it supports exploring a straight identity, [so] it’s hard to identify ‘clues’ that might point to attractions to anyone other than cisgender dudes. You know, that best friend that you cuddled with all through high school and got weird with when she got a boyfriend? Clues like that.’”
And for your reference, here’s what Autostraddle writers wish we’d known before having gay sex for the first time.
