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Welcome to NSFW Sunday!
+ Sugarbutch has some cock commandments for strap-on users, covering safety, taking it seriously, using it as an extension of yourself, and not being a dick just because you’re wearing one:
“Here’s some tips: I would suggest against using words like ‘fake,’ ‘pretend,’ ‘faux,’ ‘plastic,’ and ‘dildo.’ While they might be technically the correct terms for the item, once it becomes an extension of your (or your beloved’s) body, let me assure you: it can feel very real, and using words that support that connection rather than separating it can be empowering and validating. Some people like to give it a name—I just heard a poem where a femme kept referring to her cock as ‘Miss Big Red,’ and then later, just ‘Red,’ which was really hot. Some keep the name that the cock came with (Vixen Creations has some awesome names, like ‘Outlaw’ and ‘Buck’ and ‘Maverick’). Talk about it with your lovers and use the words that you—and they—find sexy and exciting.”
+ What is your beautiful dark Tinder fantasy?
“You go on Tinder when it’s just you and a beautiful woman in an American Apparel dress in an elevator and she’s on her phone too and you match and you push her up against the wall and start making out without exchanging so much as a word.”
+ Let’s stop talking about dating up or down and maybe treat people like people.
+ Honestly just never fake an orgasm, okay?
+ If you’re not sure what type of mattress best suits your sex life, Sleep Like The Dead has you covered with charts and breakdowns of the merits of each mattress type.
+ Anyhoo made a really quick rundown of sex toy history facts.
+ Here’s some more lesbian porn haiku:
“Ten hot seconds, followed
by months of ‘what does it
mean?’ conversations.”
+ Sometimes people just feel neutral about sex and that’s okay:
“It’s not that I don’t get aroused, I’m just not horny all the time. To be completely honest, left to my own devices I would be satisfied having sex once a week. This is hard for me to admit. Not only because I write about sex, but also because in my industry high libidos are often equated with perfect sexual health. I’m pretty sure that once this gets published someone will reach out to me and offer to help me find my true sexual self.”
+ Group sex parties are the best when everyone knows the (and their own) boundaries:
“Rules and group sex have gone hand in hand for decades. The more risqué the sexual party, the tighter the guidelines, particularly in the BDSM world where partygoers consent to physical pain. ‘The space, people’s bodies are sacred,’ Kinky Salon co-founder Polly Whittaker, aka Polly Superstar, recalls from her many years in the BDSM and fetish scene. ‘You do not talk while someone is having a scene, you don’t laugh, you don’t stare … They’ve created this incredibly strict structure because what they’re doing there is working through some really heavy shit and they need safety for that.’”
+ Women in same-sex relationships might have sex less often but make it count:
“Consistent with past research, women in same-sex relationships reported having sex significantly less often than persons in both mixed-sex and male same-sex relationships. However, women in same-sex relationships reported significantly longer durations of sexual activity than all other groups.
Consider this: for women in same-sex relationships, the median (50th percentile) time spent on sex was 30-45 minutes; in comparison, the median for everyone else was 15-30 minutes. It is also worth noting about 20% of women in same-sex relationships reported spending an hour or more on sex, while durations of this length were far less common among the other types of couples studied.”
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