Feature image of Beating Hart, C’est La Vie, and Cinnamon Maxxine in Crash Pad Series episode 308. All of the photographs in this NSFW Sunday are from the Crash Pad. The inclusion of a visual here should not be interpreted as an assertion of the model’s gender identity or sexual orientation. If you’re a photographer or model and think your work would be a good fit for NSFW Sunday, please email carolyn at autostraddle dot com.
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“Pornhub’s content purge has left fetish creators wondering what’s next,” writes Samantha Cole at Vice:
“In a month when sex on the internet is being attacked from all sides—from Instagram’s new terms of service, to TikTok kicking sex workers off the platform, to payment processors leaving Pornhub—some creators are concerned that losing one of the most popular porn sites in the world as a platform is another blow against fetish and outside-the-mainstream content on the internet as a whole.”
Oh yeah: TikTok seems to be one of the latest platforms to remove sex workers.
And while Instagram is not known for being particularly welcoming of sex content, sex workers’ and erotic artists’ profiles are vanishing:
“These concerns were hardly unfounded: For years, sex workers, sex educators, pole dancers, artists, tantric coaches, BDSM-ers and others have had their content shadowbanned or removed with little to no explanation, and Instagram has a long history of exacting this approach on sex workers and queer creators, even when their content meets community standards. Likewise, scores of sex workers and artists on Twitter and Reddit have pointed out that Instagram seems to target them, but not influencers, celebrities or brands who post near-identical content. Understandably, then, they weren’t exactly thrilled to hear Instagram’s ToS would be changing again.[…]
‘It hurts because I don’t get to talk about the things that I’m passionate about without it being stigmatized as overtly sexual,’ [Lauren] Woods adds. ‘It’s a complete attack of our humanity, dignity and ability to connect with one another under already such isolated times with this pandemic.'”
Is quarantine horniness an expression of real lust, “a grift for likes,” or mistaken loneliness? As someone in the first category, this piece on post-lockdown life as the opposite of horny is a supreme bummer. On the other hand, here’s your 2021 sex horoscope, which might be a little optimistic considering that for now, all anyone with an open dance card can do is talk.
“Clit pumps are sexy, useful, and underrated,” writes Molly Longman at Refinery 29.
Christmas is the least fuck-worthy winter holiday.
At Salty, Illana Slavit writes about how toxic sex education led to erotophobia (and how they overcame it):
“For a long time, I loathed my physical responses to sexual stimuli. I’d never been raped, I thought, so why was my body behaving like I had? The erotophobia I’d internalized as a safety mechanism affected my dating life and consensual sexual experimentation. I overcame the physical manifestations of my erotophobia by slowly easing into sexual experiences in a checklist-type manner. First, I tried kissing. Then dry humping, fingering, and so on. Exposure therapy essentially saved my sex life, although I still have issues communicating and getting out of my head in sexual situations. But my big breakthrough was realizing that my inadequate sex education was one of the root causes of my erotophobia.”
Yep. Instagram has deleted some of my photos, and I’m sure I’m shadowbanned. They’ll probably delete my account eventually. Tumblr gave me the boot entirely, and the only platform that never policed my content was Flickr. FLICKR. And no one cares about Flickr. Or Fetlife, for that matter. So far I’ve resisted getting on Twitter. Who would ever have thought we’d miss Tumblr this much :(