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Welcome to NSFW Sunday!
“I tried (and quit) an orgasmic breath work class,” writes Morgan Jerkins at Zora.
Try these three breathing exercises for anxiety.
What’s on your summer sex (partnered or solo!) bucket list?
Here’s how quarantine can be an opportunity to accept your body and gender identity.
In Britain, the “rough sex” defense of claiming that domestic violence or worse were actually consensual BDSM was recently undercut by new legislation that would classify all “actual bodily harm” as non-consensual. The problem is that “actual bodily harm” is thought of as starting with marks that last for longer than 20 minutes, which is… most marks from BDSM. Laws along these lines tend to conflate abuse and kink, which is worrying, writes Alice Snape at Vice:
“The ‘rough sex defence’ was a phrase originally coined by domestic violence campaigners in response to the rising numbers of men using it in murder cases to get a lighter sentence. In court, these men claimed that the fatal injuries of their victims had actually been caused during BDSM and consensual sex. But contrary to the initial headlines that this draft bill puts an end to the defence, it actually criminalises any actual bodily harm, even if it happens consensually, safely and for the purposes of sexual pleasure. […]
Instead of stating that no one can consent to harm, people in the BDSM community think we should be looking closer at the context of such incidents.”
Lost when it comes to texting people you’re dating? Here are some suggestions.
Here’s how to tell someone you love that they need to see a therapist.
The age gap debate is getting old.
Hygiene Hustle is a Black-, queer-, and sex worker-owned business that makes sanitary products like hand sanitizer. Here’s how they got started.
It is totally fine if you don’t like performing oral sex on people with vulvas. At Slate, Stoya recommends first trying dental dams, and also not using the word “gross” with sexual partners when you talk about what you like or don’t:
“‘Gross’ is hard to hear. I hope you’re choosing different words when speaking to current or prospective sexual partners. […] [D]o your best to help them remain receptive by using phrases like ‘I prefer to give and receive digital stimulation’ or ‘I’m generally not into giving or receiving oral.’
Try to remember that dating is a process of sorting through mismatch after mismatch until we find the person, or people, who click with us. When someone calls calls you a pillow princess as a pejorative, questions your bisexuality, or judges you for your open disinterest in oral, that’s a signal that it’s time to move along.”
