Hi, apple pies! Welcome to this week’s Friday Open Thread.

This week I’m catsitting for my ex- (now ex’s) cat, which is transparently an excuse to take a working vacation in an apartment that, unlike mine, has somewhere to sit outside and more than one door. She partially paid me in groceries and booze, which has been really lovely for my productivity, and I get to hang out with some family while I’m in town (I’m definitely bringing my youngest relatives Lumberjanes). So far the cat seems only slightly confused.

Right after this he started trying to eat my phone.
Right after this he started trying to eat my phone.

A few of my thoughts lately have included: How is it almost October? How is it still warm enough to sit outside in Canada? What is the appeal of the whole pumpkin spice thing? (I have never had a pumpkin spice latte because of lactose/soy allergies.) Will I ever be less busy? Where can I buy a time turner or that watch they had in Clockstoppers? Would it be inappropriate to use said time turner or science watch so I can sleep in?

Going away, whether for a few days or a few months, is always an interesting experience for me, or rather an interesting experience for the people I visit, when they look in awe at how little luggage I’ve brought. For a week away, I have a knapsack. For a few months away earlier this year, I brought a carry-on-sized duffle bag and a purse just big enough to hold my tiny laptop and, resentfully, more than one pair of shoes. I tend to travel with only three sweaters, but the truth is that I also own only three sweaters.

This is a dramatic interpretation. The black one actually has full-length sleeves.
This is a dramatic interpretation because I’m doing laundry. The black one actually has full-length sleeves.

My presentation is “minimalist femme,” which is sometimes “broke femme” and sometimes “just haven’t really thought that much about this femme” and sometimes “afraid that it’ll be worse to get this ‘wrong’ than to just not try femme.” My general approach to clothing is that I try not to think about it more than I have to, but I am bored with that and also with wearing basically the same thing every day, and since Carmen put a new wardrobe in her fall resolutions the time for change is now.

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I’ve been reading Women in Clothes, which is basically a huge series of multi-form discussions about the way people think about their clothes, but the majority of the people in it are straight, and so I’m wondering: how do you think about clothing, and your queerness, and your life? What is your non-standard presentation? (Hard femme? Skater butch? Sparkle butch? Flannel genderqueer? Jennifer Lawrence on a dark night?) What do you want to achieve when you dress? Do you have an outfit that you wear every day or when you want to feel a certain way or that always reminds you of something or that lets you forget something else? What do you wear when you move through the world? What do you wear alone at home?

I also want to hear your feelings about travel or being friends with your ex or being friends with your kittens of divorce or whether you would like to start a club for people who have not tried pumpkin spice lattes or what you’re doing tonight or who you’re doing tonight or anything at all. Let’s hang out.

this was the least threatening photo of someone else's wardrobe I could find (via)
this was the least threatening photo of someone else’s wardrobe I could find (via)

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