Welcome to Butt Week, friends! An entire week dedicated to butts and butt-adjacent stuff: how-tos, thoughtful essays, original art, pop culture critiques, music and more! You are absolutely not ready for this and yet it is happening to you, right now.Let’s talk about underwear!
Did you hear it’s Butt Week?! It’s true, it is! So we’re gonna talk about what covers (or doesn’t cover!) our butts.
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Agree w/ Vanessa that Natori is so good (how is their fabric cotton, but also better than cotton, and light and durable at the same time?). I have had some luck finding discounted pairs at Nordstrom Rack, although one might have to check repeatedly to find the right colorway and size.
For more center-of-center option, I recently got a 3 pack of Calvin Klein seamless “hipster” underwear from Costco where the waistband isn’t too thick. I wear “Large” in basically everything (dress size 12, pant waist size 31), so ymmv.
https://www.costco.com/calvin-klein-ladies'-hipster%2c-3-pack.product.100668307.html
I recently discovered WOXERS which despite the incredibly stupid name are my ideal undies. Extra crotch space in “men’s” boxer briefs never bugged me, but a roomier thigh and waste band are refreshing after years of wearing boxer briefs that pinched my sides and rode up my legs. They’re very similar to tomboyX but just a little more comfy.
I keep getting ads for Woxers but have been refusing to buy them based on name alone, hahaha, it is so silly. Not that I love the name TomboyX but Woxer is somehow more offensive to me? But I like the idea of more thigh room…feel like Tomboys can be inconsistent sometimes in their sizing.
I’d like to say that I know it’s waist not “waste”. For the record.
I’ve been wanting to try woxer forever but cannot get over the fact that shipping is 4-12 weeks
KaeLyn, those high waisted Aerie’s are my favorite underwear too and I’m so sad they seem to have stopped making them 😭 if I could travel back in time I would stock pile a hundred pairs. Guess I’m just gonna wear the 10 I have now until they fall apart.
After 30+ years of commando, I decided to try underwear again. Quickly settled on low-rider briefs. They might not fit perfectly due to my junk, but they’re comfy. Also, they have a little pocket in the crotch, which I guess if for extra cash? Weed stash? Spare key?
Jersey elance high-cuts – a hug for your tummy, enough room for your legs that you don’t feel constricted, sexy in a very old-school Mommi way
Thank you for this article; it is really helpful!
Just gonna say as an ex-seamstress, if you can buy underwear that involves a living wage, that’s not something to feel embarrassed about, and thank you!
I was really sad that the local gender affirming and diversity celebrating underwear store closed this year, but they are still selling a small selection online, made in Canada (youropencloset). I’m hoping maybe one day they’ll be able to open again…
Meanwhile I’ll keep selling fancy Swiss undies at work and getting a free pair every so often to cover my bottom line I guess 😜
TomboyX micromodal boyshorts 4-ever.
YES THE MOST PERFECT
Abeni’s question about the “front thong” of women’s underwear is hilarious and true! I am AFAB agender and those style undies do not work on my body at all. They must work for some folks because they’re so prevalent but idk! Gonna call them front things from now on. I mostly wear short style ones without a center seam (why the fuck is there a center seam on so many?? how is that comfy…) for this exact reason.
Yes! I’m also baffled by how narrow the front and crotch part of some underwear is, as that’s just not as comfortable to me. I like the fruit of the loom hipster style because they seem a bit better in that regard, but that might just be because I may have bought them a size bigger than necessary. (Shrug)
@Vanessa – https://www.jockey.com/catalog/women/plus-sizes!underwear/all?fabrication=cotton
Jockey has 100% cotton underwear that goes up to a roomy size 24. I have been exclusively wearing the all black high waisted briefs for the past few years and it really helps with preventing irritation/wetness. Sadly tho lots of panty lines and not very sexy, but give and take
FWIW my go-to fat girl cotton briefs are Cacique. I don’t tend to shop at Lane Bryant for anything else–their styles never seem quite modern enough?–but I like these underwear. (You will not be able to avoid the word “panties” on their website, be warned!)
man between tomboy/butch aesthetics and having Bad Skin that leads to the formation of super painful cysts anywhere that my clothing chafes, i’ve become somewhat of an undies connoisseur
on the list of bad: tight waistbands, elastic waistbands that aren’t covered with cotton (why is this so common in men’s underwear? y’all know you don’t have to have that right?), tight legs, boring patterns
on the list of good: waistband that sits halfway down my paunch instead of actually at my waist, patterns that ms. frizzle would approve of
sadly my favorite brand (target’s store brand mossimo) stopped making the fun cute $6 boxer briefs, so now i suffer through plaids and solids while dreaming of the day i can spend more than ten dollars a pair
Oh hello I also have bad skin (hidradenitis suppurativa in my groin) that makes me picky about undies! I’d love to have butcher undies but every boy-short/boxer brief style that doesn’t have elastic in bad places doesn’t fit around my thighs. Do you have any recommendations?
Perhaps Uniqlo’s Regular Rise Boxer Briefs? (See below)
https://www.uniqlo.com/us/en/men/underwear/regular-rise-boxer-briefs?ptid=men-underwear
Riese, I’m a little late to the panty party here, but I was just about to order some of those 4.5” trunks from TomboyX. Thought I’d check-in to see how they run as I’m between the S and M size-wise. If you don’t have time to comment, I understand. It’s an older article.
Thanks,
Emma
Okay totally relate to the tiny gusset problem like hello. What is that even about…wanting to have a teeny tiny pussy? Idk. But my favorite 100% cotton super comfy undies are from a brand called Knickey! They’re also Reasonably affordable like 5 pairs for $55. SO soft and a wide gusset and no tightness anywhere! They’re super breezy and soft and also come in cute colors!
Vanessa you are my hero! As someone who also has a finniky vagina I can’t beleive that the ‘pop into the bathroom and change into sexy lingerie’ has never occurred to me! You continue to be a legend ✨
For Your Consideration: Uniqlo’s Regular Rise Boxer Briefs:
– 100% cotton
– Very soft
– Not too big a pouch
– Reasonably priced
– Fun-ish patterns
– Very stretchy, but don’t bunch
– Fit nicely over my thighs and waist which are larger and differently proportioned than most men’s
– The waistband is high enough and sturdy enough that my belly doesn’t make it roll over on itself all day
I have a size 36 waist and wear a size L.
https://www.uniqlo.com/us/en/men/underwear/regular-rise-boxer-briefs?ptid=men-underwear
I like Harebrained Period Panties (not replacements for pads/tampons). They’re 95% cotton/5% elastane. The designs amuse me, but most importantly, they’re comfortable. They are my all-the-time underwear. The briefs cover everything I want covered, with the legs sitting high enough that they don’t cut in, and the sizing goes from S-4XL.
I’m fat, and these are the most comfortable undies I’ve found in years.
Okay, so I recently went looking for a new brand of underwear after my original go-to brand suddenly changed their style/fit and I suddenly hated them. I’ve always worn boxer-briefs at work because they’re more comfortable under my stupid uniform, but now I wear them 24/7 since finding a new brand to love. I shall share my process…
I scoured the Internet and narrowed down to 3 companies: Woxer, TomboyX, and… Jockey.
TomboyX is very expensive and I live in Canada which makes it even more expensive. Nonetheless, the fit was good, but I didn’t feel the need to write home about them.
I’d never heard of Woxer until a targeted “you’re a gay woman shopping for underwear” ad came up. So I Googled them looking for reviews. I did not find reviews. What I found instead was a new recommendation… Jockey. The Woxers ended up being way too big despite the fact that I used their size chart with my exact measurements. Go figure.
The Winner: Jockey Rapid Cool No-Fly Boxer Briefs! They sell these in my local department stores. They’re fairly priced. They’re polyester which I personally love (though I know it’s not for everyone). And they fit like a dream. I stocked the f*ck up. They are now all I wear under my clothes.
Woxers are life. Took me a long time to press go on a pair but now I’m never looking back nor buying anything else. I’ve replaced every single pair I owned with a pair of Woxers. They breathe, super soft, don’t muffin top, come in fun colors and most importantly for me, don’t ride up.
I really want to wear boxers/trunks/boyshorts, but those have no gusset at all. How do other menstruating folks deal with that?
TomboyX 9″ boxer briefs are the best for me (especially the new First Line ones so I don’t have to wear a liner or pad). I had no idea that underwear could feel RIGHT until I switched to them.
Vanessa you are my ideal! As somebody who additionally has a finicky vagina, I can’t believe that the ‘fly into the restroom and change into provocative underwear’ has never happened to me! You keep on being a legend