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‘How Can I Be a Good Girlfriend When My Partner Is Extremely Anxious About Sex’

“I feel like we intuitively understand each other and our needs in a lot of matters and are willing to…

Summer Tao

Feb 4, 2025

"I've been trying to find resources/advice for how to support a partner who is starting the process of taking hormones, but am really struggling to find information that isn't transphobic."

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‘I Want To Support My Partner Who Is Starting HRT’

“I know there will be need to be a lot of conversations about what they’re…

Summer Tao

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Dec 24, 2024

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10 Questions for Couples To Ask Each Other Before Moving in Together

Asking each other these 10 questions can set you up for a smoother move-in and…

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya

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Nov 30, 2024

"Oh my god I cant explain how dull 70% of our text conversations are."

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‘I Love My Girlfriend but Sometimes She Annoys Me’

“I feel bad because obviously she’s texting me because she wants to talk to me,…

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya

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Nov 26, 2024

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American Highway Infrastructure Is Evil and Other Lessons From My Long Distance Lesbian Relationship

Also: Podcasts are extinct — just call your yappy girlfriend!

Gabrielle Grace Hogan

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Nov 25, 2024

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‘I Want To Support My Partner Who Is Starting HRT’

“I know there will be need to be a lot of conversations about what they’re feeling and conversations specific to how I can support them.”

Summer Tao —

Dec 24, 2024

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10 Questions for Couples To Ask Each Other Before Moving in Together

Asking each other these 10 questions can set you up for a smoother move-in and create ongoing conversations about your needs and expectations for living together.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

Nov 30, 2024

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‘I Love My Girlfriend but Sometimes She Annoys Me’

“I feel bad because obviously she’s texting me because she wants to talk to me, but I don’t like texting and I don’t want to constantly have such empty conversations.”

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

Nov 26, 2024

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You Need Help: My Trauma is Activated When My Partner Masturbates to Porn

Your feelings are deeply understandable, even though your partner isn’t doing anything wrong. If you haven’t already, it’s time to seek trauma therapy.

danijanae —

Nov 15, 2022

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My Chronic Yeast Infections Wouldn’t Go Away — Until I Left My Toxic Relationship

I wish my doctor had mentioned the relationship between stress and chronic yeast infections.

Aalis —

Nov 14, 2022

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The 68 Absolutely Gayest Ways You Met Your Gay Partner(s), According to the 2022 Reader Survey

“We met in 1995. I was in grad school and had a job at the campus women’s center. I helped her hang an art show. We later hung out at…

Riese —

Nov 9, 2022

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How Chloe Caldwell’s “Women” Shaped My Queer Heartbreak

I couldn’t acknowledge that this was unsustainable, that my life wasn’t the novella I had convinced myself it was.

Mia Arias Tsang —

Nov 7, 2022

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I’m Not a Cat Lesbian but I Fell in Love With One

I never wanted to live with a cat. Of course, the universe had other plans.

Sa’iyda Shabazz —

Sep 20, 2022

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You Need Help: Can I Go Through this Heartbreak Again?

In order to work through problems in a relationship, both parties must be present, willing, and able to do the work required. It’s a little like you’re sitting side by…

Darcy —

Jul 19, 2022

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You Need Help: Is ‘Lesbian Bed Death’ Really So Bad?

It’s easy to get the impression that everybody should be wanting to have lots of sex, all the time. But sex is not inherently superior to any other way you…

Darcy —

Jun 7, 2022

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A person with long hair sitting on her bed, silhouetted by the window, facing the filmy transparent curtains. Outside, there is the hint of a sunrise.

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You Need Help: Should My Relationship Really Be This Hard?

Moving through your relationship as carefully as you currently are is going to be unsustainable in the long-term. Your partner is enacting a sustained pattern of behavior that needs to…

Darcy —

May 31, 2022

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The 12 Lesbian Love Languages

You might be familiar with the 5 Love Languages — but do you know the 12 Lesbian Love Languages? Great news, I just made them up: from "premature commitment" to "nesting" to "gay chaos," let's dig into this life-altering and deeply scientific understanding of what makes it all work out.

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Asking My Fiancée Questions I Don’t Know the Answers to a Month Before Our Wedding

“Have you ever called someone the wrong name during sex?”

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Jan 10, 2024

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‘How Can I Be a Good Girlfriend When My Partner Is Extremely Anxious About Sex’

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‘I Want To Support My Partner Who Is Starting HRT’

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10 Questions for Couples To Ask Each Other Before Moving in Together

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‘I Love My Girlfriend but Sometimes She Annoys Me’

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American Highway Infrastructure Is Evil and Other Lessons From My Long Distance Lesbian Relationship

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‘I Want To Support My Partner Who Is Starting HRT’

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10 Questions for Couples To Ask Each Other Before Moving in Together

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‘I Love My Girlfriend but Sometimes She Annoys Me’

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