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Can’t a Lesbian Enjoy a Little Straight Porn Around Here?

Your best friend is shaming you for the kind of porn that gets you off. Also; tips on having more…

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Aug 8, 2025

A white woman with long blonde hair in a bun wears a grey flannel with white cross hatching. She sits in a cafe with her chin in her hand, looking away from the woman sitting next to her. The woman beside her is a Black woman with curly hair. She wears a white shirt with an open denim collared shirt over it. She looks down at her phone. A latte is in blue mug in front of her.

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7 Signs It’s Time for Couples Therapy, According to a Queer Relationship Therapist

You don’t have to wait for an extreme problem to seek out couples therapy.

Aliyah Moore —

Jul 3, 2023

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You Need Help: How Can I Make Long Distance More Bearable?

Long distance will always be challenging; here are the ways you can strengthen the way you navigate those challenges.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

Jun 20, 2023

Jess and Anya take a selfie in central park, a spread on a picnic blanket of notebooks, headphones, a camera, and a hat. Jess posing in a Zabar's hat.

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Dykes on Dates: A Chill, Food-Filled Day on the Upper West Side

If you’ve never been to the American Museum of Natural History before, let me tell you about the whale.

Anya Richkind —

May 18, 2023

slow-cooking pork, Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya and her fiancé Kristen smiling together, and a spread of pork tacos toppings

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Dykes on Dates: Tender Pork Tacos That Are Too Good To Be True

There’s probably a joke in here about being a bottom, but genuinely a lot of my favorite date night dinners involve, well, toppings.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

May 4, 2023

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Dykes on Dates: Here’s a Picnic Menu That Feels Fancy but Is Cheap and Easy

In which I forget a crucial part of our picnic at home but we still have a lovely time anyway.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

Apr 20, 2023

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Dykes on Dates: Parents Weekend

We went on a bunch of double dates with my parents, and it made me realize our relationships are more similar than I thought.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

Apr 6, 2023

Against a peach background, pink and red flowers form the shape of a uterus. Green vines form the fallopian tubes and white flowers form the ovaries.

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How Polyamory Pushed Me to Prioritize My Pelvic Health

Communicating openly about sex and pelvic health with my partners helps me advocate for myself in medical settings.

Samantha Puc —

Apr 3, 2023

photo 1: a lineup of five drinks in cans and 1 in a bottle. photo 2: two hands clink glasses of sparkling rosé together. photo 3: snacks, including corn chips, caramelized onion dip, spicy cheese dip, and a tin of seafood pate

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Dykes on Dates: Sometimes Date Night Is Just Chips, Dips, and a Drink Tasting

This was truly the least amount of food prep I’ve ever done for an at-home date night.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

Mar 23, 2023

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Can’t a Lesbian Enjoy a Little Straight Porn Around Here?

7 Signs It’s Time for Couples Therapy, According to a Queer Relationship Therapist

You Need Help: How Can I Make Long Distance More Bearable?

Dykes on Dates: A Chill, Food-Filled Day on the Upper West Side

Dykes on Dates: Tender Pork Tacos That Are Too Good To Be True

Dykes on Dates: Here’s a Picnic Menu That Feels Fancy but Is Cheap and Easy

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Dykes on Dates: Sometimes Date Night Is Just Chips, Dips, and a Drink Tasting

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