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Should I Cut My Maternity Leave Short To Help My Coworkers?

Your wife thinks your maternity leave plan is “crazy.” Also, how to navigate potential imbalances in a slightly open relationship.

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Jul 25, 2025

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Cheating Is Not Abuse

Consensual sex between adults should never be treated as a crime. It might be a horrible betrayal; it’s still not abuse.

Drew Burnett Gregory —

Mar 28, 2024

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I Confronted My Girlfriend About Cheating On Me, She Responded By Coming Out as Poly

Is this ever an okay way for a poly relationship to begin?

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Feb 23, 2024

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Divorce Week

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You Need Help: You Should Divorce Your Transphobic Wife

Your wife fell in love with you and built a life with you and you’re a woman. You didn’t become a woman. You didn’t trick her into being queer —…

Drew Burnett Gregory —

Feb 13, 2024

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The 12 Lesbian Love Languages

You might be familiar with the 5 Love Languages — but do you know the 12 Lesbian Love Languages? Great news, I just made them up: from “premature commitment” to “nesting”…

Riese —

Feb 8, 2024

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You Need Help: What If You Never Want To Move In Together?

“I asked her if there’s a world in which we always live separately but still spend most nights together, and she didn’t say no but she also said she was…

Riese —

Jan 23, 2024

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Forget New Relationship Energy, Embrace Stable Relationship Energy

Rather than striving for New Relationship Energy within a relationship that isn’t new, why don’t we embrace Stable Relationship Energy?

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

Jan 19, 2024

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Asking My Fiancée Questions I Don’t Know the Answers to a Month Before Our Wedding

“Have you ever called someone the wrong name during sex?”

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

Jan 10, 2024

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You Need Help: How Do I Make Myself Like My Girlfriend’s Cat?

You already did things right by talking about this before moving in together. Now it’s time to talk some more.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

Dec 5, 2023

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You might be familiar with the 5 Love Languages — but do you know the 12 Lesbian Love Languages? Great news, I just made them up: from "premature commitment" to "nesting" to "gay chaos," let's dig into this life-altering and deeply scientific understanding of what makes it all work out.

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Asking My Fiancée Questions I Don’t Know the Answers to a Month Before Our Wedding

“Have you ever called someone the wrong name during sex?”

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

Jan 10, 2024

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51 Of The Most Important Things You’ve Ever Fought About

“Which of our astrological sun signs is more of a bitch.”

Riese —

Oct 16, 2015

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What Do Women In Lesbian Relationships Fight About?

We asked 3,500+ women in same-sex relationships what they fought about — from drinking too much to not seeing each other enough to being jealous of exes, here’s the results!

Riese —

Oct 13, 2015

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82 Silly Household Things You Fought About With Your Girlfriend

“I locked myself in the bathroom because she kept telling me I wasn’t cleaning the toilet the right way”

Riese —

Oct 6, 2015

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