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Can’t a Lesbian Enjoy a Little Straight Porn Around Here?

Your best friend is shaming you for the kind of porn that gets you off. Also; tips on having more…

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Aug 8, 2025

"She was my very first love, the first person I slept with, and she's always somehow been on my mind."

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‘I’m Married, My Ex Just Said She’s in Love With Me, and I Don’t Know What To Do’

“I’ve done a lot of processing, but I am super confused. I don’t know what feelings are memories from the past and what is today.”

Summer Tao —

Aug 13, 2024

I know it's selfish but I liked having my girlfriend all to myself.

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‘Quarantine Was Great for My Relationship’

“How do we get back to where we were without literally going back to where we were during lockdown?”

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

Aug 6, 2024

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‘My Wife Is in the Early Stages of Transitioning, and I Feel Weird About Keeping Her Identity a Secret’

“It feels like she’s never going to be fully out and that this is just how the rest of our life together is going to be.”

Summer Tao —

Jul 16, 2024

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10 Challenges of a Long Distance Relationship That Have Nothing To Do With the Relationship

Here are the ten biggest challenges I’ve faced as someone who splits my time between two countries because an Instagram crush got out of hand and whoops I fell madly…

Drew Burnett Gregory —

Jun 29, 2024

YOU NEED HELP: a distressed person leans on another person

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‘The Lack of Physical Affection From My Girlfriend Is Becoming Unbearable’

“I just feel like a huge 30-year-old crybaby thinking about asking for more physical affection and, on my worst days, starting to think ‘maybe moving in was a mistake.'”

Summer Tao —

Jun 18, 2024

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What My Queer Long Distance Relationship Taught Me About Trust

Dating as a lesbian has its own barriers even without an anxiety disorder.

Gabrielle Grace Hogan —

Jun 10, 2024

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Is Monogamy Cool Again?

Is the era of polyamory over? Are more queer people returning to monogamy? Or is it just a shift in the cultural conversation?

Gabe Dunn —

Apr 17, 2024

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After 11 Years Together, My Partner Suddenly Wants To Call Off Our Engagement

“I feel like I’ve built a whole personality around accommodating her schedule: apologizing for her absences and filling in for what she doesn’t make time for (cooking, housework).”

Em Win —

Apr 9, 2024

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Can’t a Lesbian Enjoy a Little Straight Porn Around Here?

‘I’m Married, My Ex Just Said She’s in Love With Me, and I Don’t Know What To Do’

‘Quarantine Was Great for My Relationship’

‘My Wife Is in the Early Stages of Transitioning, and I Feel Weird About Keeping Her Identity a Secret’

10 Challenges of a Long Distance Relationship That Have Nothing To Do With the Relationship

‘The Lack of Physical Affection From My Girlfriend Is Becoming Unbearable’

What My Queer Long Distance Relationship Taught Me About Trust

Is Monogamy Cool Again?

After 11 Years Together, My Partner Suddenly Wants To Call Off Our Engagement

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