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‘My Date Was Turned Off by the Idea of Being My First Girlfriend’

“She said she doesn’t want to be anybody’s first-ever girlfriend because she’s looking for something serious/longterm and doesn’t want to…

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya

Jul 29, 2025

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‘My Date Was Turned Off by the Idea of Being My First Girlfriend’

“She said she doesn’t want to be anybody’s first-ever girlfriend because she’s looking for something serious/longterm and doesn’t want to waste her time because ‘nobody ever settles down with their…

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

Jul 29, 2025

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‘I’m a Trans Guy Looking for a Co-Parent. Are Queer Arranged Marriages a Thing?’

“I feel like in some ways, I could be down for a marriage in the sense of contract-to-build-a-family-unit rather than the marriage-driven-by-romantic-love sense.”

Summer Tao —

Jul 22, 2025

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Will Everyone Always Seem Second-Best to My Ex?

They checked every box, but now it’s over and nothing else seems to come close. Will it always be this way? Also, we help a reader decide if she should…

the team —

Jul 11, 2025

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I’m Moving In With My Ex-Situationship (Wait, There’s More)

She’s dating your bestie, still flirts with you, and you’re all three moving in together?! Also, a reader wonders if she’s really a lesbian if all of her exes came…

the team —

Jul 4, 2025

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‘I’m a Thirty-Something Lesbian Worried I’ll Be Single Forever’

“And I’m a total catch! I have a great job, I own my house, I’m smart, cute, and don’t speak to any of my exes!”

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

Jul 1, 2025

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My Boyfriend Doesn’t Trust Me to Party at Pride This Year

You cheated on your boyfriend and now he’s asking you to stay home from Pride parties — is that fair? Also, how to navigate different types of political activism.

the team —

Jun 27, 2025

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Hold Up, Can My Friend Date My Ex?

She broke your heart and now she’s dating your friend and everyone says it’s 100% legal, like what the fuck. Also, we help a reader gently set some misophonia boundaries…

the team —

May 16, 2025

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