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My Ex Is Stuck in Friend Request Purgatory

She was a season. A fever dream. A glitter bomb of an experience. And I’m grateful. I am. But also:…

Carlo

Jul 31, 2025

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My Ex Is Stuck in Friend Request Purgatory

She was a season. A fever dream. A glitter bomb of an experience. And I’m grateful. I am. But also: I’m not accepting that friend request.

Carlo —

Jul 31, 2025

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The People We Miss From Breakups Other Than Our Exes

I think of all the people who exited my life because of breakups and how neither of us knew our final conversations with each other were exactly that.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

Jun 23, 2025

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Breaking Up Is Hard To Do

We broke up on a Wednesday at 10 p.m. Any other Wednesday, and we might have been watching a show, taking a bath together, or sitting at our desks in…

ashni —

Jun 11, 2025

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Our Best Memories With Our Worst Exes

Even bad relationships contain good memories.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

May 6, 2025

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"It shouldn’t matter. But I almost care more about this than I do about the fact that she’s still apparently with the girl she cheated on me with."

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‘My Ex Is Doing the Art Project We Planned Together Without Me’

Creative jealousy is understandable in a lot of contexts, but especially this one.

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

Oct 15, 2024

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"I keep thinking maybe they're an avoidant personality style and that they'll come back and say they made a mistake and they do want to date me."

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‘I Can’t Stop Thinking About the What-Ifs With Someone I Dated for Two Months’

While using knowledge about one’s attachment style to build lines of communication with a partner and to manage conflict can be super helpful, letting yourself hang onto false hope because…

Nico —

Sep 24, 2024

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‘I Want To Break Up With My Girlfriend but We’re Co-Workers’

“Feeling like I can’t break up with her is making me so unhappy, which makes me want to break up more!”

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

Jul 30, 2024

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‘How Do I Transition My Failed Situationship Into a Friendship?’

“I know saying my situationship broke up with me a week ago and we’re trying to be friends already is probably the most lesbian-coded sentence on the planet…”

ashni —

Jul 9, 2024

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The Best Breakup Advice You’ll Ever Get

"The world is supposed to feel as though it is ending and you are supposed to know only in the most dormant recesses of the backmost corner of your soul that it will not be like this forever."

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37 Quotes From Queer Authors About Heartbreak, Loss and Moving the F*ck On

“Even as I hold you, I am letting you go.”

Riese —

Apr 9, 2024

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Salons and Divorce Doulas: How Queers Are Fighting the Trauma and Stigma of Divorce

“I’ve been ostracized, people don’t even know my side of the story. And they just stopped talking to me because they’ve talked to my ex.”

Carmen Phillips —

Feb 20, 2024

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We Asked a Bunch of Queer People To Share Their Go-To Breakup Coping Mechanisms

“Applying to jobs in Antarctica. Not joking.”

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

Jan 5, 2024

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Y’All Need Help #2: You Can’t Avoid Your Ex Forever

Quick and dirty advice for a brand new lesbian in Chicago, a small town bird who’s ready to be in the same room with her ex, and someone who’s tired…

Laneia —

Oct 7, 2015

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My Ex Is Stuck in Friend Request Purgatory

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