Coming Out

Resources and advice on coming out gay, lesbian, queer, bisexual, trans, non-binary and/or nothing at all! Essays and how-tos on coming out to yourself, figuring out your identity and more.

celebrities (vapid fluff)

Billie Eilish Is “Gay & Tired,” Also “Physically Attracted to Women”

Billie Eilish used Instagram’s “gay & tired” filter, and it has some fans going 👀

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya

Nov 13, 2023

girl in a yellow hat holding sign that says "be yourself"

COMING OUT

15 Creative Ways To Come Out to Your Family, Friends and/or the Entire World

You could come out to your Mom in the car while driving to the outlet…

Riese

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Oct 11, 2023

a close-up of two young people wearing distressed denim, one white, one Black, holding hands

COMING OUT

You Need Help: Can I Date While Living With My Homophobic Parents?

Dating can be amazing and wonderful. But if you currently rely on homophobic parents for…

Darcy

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Apr 25, 2023

Mo'Nique on stage at her new Netflix comedy special.

COMING OUT

Mo’Nique Grapples With Her Queer Desires, Fear, and Coming Out In New Netflix Special

“So for you babies in the LGBTQ community, I want y’all to hear me. I…

Carmen Phillips

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Apr 5, 2023

woman with pink short hair stands against a clear blue sky, holding a rainbow flag billowing in the wind, looking content and sure of herself

COMING OUT

You Need Help: How Can I Be My Authentic Self While Navigating Bi-Erasure and Biphobia?

You can’t control other people’s reactions to your coming out. But you can create for…

Casey

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Feb 28, 2023

coming out

15 Creative Ways To Come Out to Your Family, Friends and/or the Entire World

You could come out to your Mom in the car while driving to the outlet mall, but alternately, you could come out to your Mom via interpretive dance.

Riese —

Oct 11, 2023

coming out

You Need Help: Can I Date While Living With My Homophobic Parents?

Dating can be amazing and wonderful. But if you currently rely on homophobic parents for material support, it may be time to focus on planning the next stage of your…

Darcy —

Apr 25, 2023

coming out

Mo’Nique Grapples With Her Queer Desires, Fear, and Coming Out In New Netflix Special

“So for you babies in the LGBTQ community, I want y’all to hear me. I respect every-motherfuckin’-body in here free enough to be their goddamn selves.”

Carmen Phillips —

Apr 5, 2023

billie eilish

This Is A Coming Out Post

celebrities (vapid fluff)

Billie Eilish Is “Gay & Tired,” Also “Physically Attracted to Women”

Billie Eilish used Instagram’s “gay & tired” filter, and it has some fans going 👀

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya —

Nov 13, 2023

Lists/Top 10s

coming out

15 Creative Ways To Come Out to Your Family, Friends and/or the Entire World

You could come out to your Mom in the car while driving to the outlet mall, but alternately, you could come out to your Mom via interpretive dance.

Riese —

Oct 11, 2023

you need help

coming out

You Need Help: Can I Date While Living With My Homophobic Parents?

Dating can be amazing and wonderful. But if you currently rely on homophobic parents for material support, it may be time to focus on planning the next stage of your…

Darcy —

Apr 25, 2023

netflix

This Is A Coming Out Post

coming out

Mo’Nique Grapples With Her Queer Desires, Fear, and Coming Out In New Netflix Special

“So for you babies in the LGBTQ community, I want y’all to hear me. I respect every-motherfuckin’-body in here free enough to be their goddamn selves.”

Carmen Phillips —

Apr 5, 2023

you need help

coming out

You Need Help: How Can I Be My Authentic Self While Navigating Bi-Erasure and Biphobia?

You can’t control other people’s reactions to your coming out. But you can create for yourself a network of people who unequivocally support your bisexuality/queerness and who understand the specific…

Casey —

Feb 28, 2023

you need help

a young Black woman with short curly hair looks pensive as she writes in her journal

coming out

You Need Help: What If I’m Lying to Myself About Being Queer?

I absolutely remember this feeling. “Am I crazy? Am I just making this up to complicate my life?” The answer is, no, you’re not. You’re not making it up. It’s…

Casey —

Oct 18, 2022

national coming out day

tv roundtable

A collage of cut out images from famous TV coming out scenes, in front of a blurred tv background, left to right: Robin from Stranger Things, Denise from Master of None, Santana from Glee, Naomi from Skins, and Elena Alvarez from One Day at a Time

tv feature

The Coming Out Scenes We’ll Never Forget

“I doubt that Santana was written from the jump with the intention to make her a lesbian, but sometimes that’s what a coming out journey feels like — like you’re…

The TV Team —

Oct 11, 2022

you need help

a woman stands in front of the sun rising over the mountains, contemplating her future

coming out

You Need Help: I’m 49 and Questioning — Is It Too Late for Me?

It is not too late for you! Every day, we wake up and make our lives anew. What do you want your life to be today?

Darcy —

Oct 11, 2022

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billie eilish

This Is A Coming Out Post

Billie Eilish Is “Gay & Tired,” Also “Physically Attracted to Women”

Billie Eilish used Instagram's "gay & tired" filter, and it has some fans going 👀

Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya

celebrities (vapid fluff)

Lists/Top 10s

15 Creative Ways To Come Out to Your Family, Friends and/or the Entire World

You could come out to your Mom in the car while driving to the outlet mall, but alternately, you could come out to your Mom via interpretive dance.

Riese —

Oct 11, 2023

you need help

You Need Help: Can I Date While Living With My Homophobic Parents?

Dating can be amazing and wonderful. But if you currently rely on homophobic parents for material support, it may be time to focus on planning the next stage of your…

Darcy —

Apr 25, 2023

netflix

This Is A Coming Out Post

Mo’Nique Grapples With Her Queer Desires, Fear, and Coming Out In New Netflix Special

“So for you babies in the LGBTQ community, I want y’all to hear me. I respect every-motherfuckin’-body in here free enough to be their goddamn selves.”

Carmen Phillips —

Apr 5, 2023

you need help

You Need Help: How Can I Be My Authentic Self While Navigating Bi-Erasure and Biphobia?

Casey —

Feb 28, 2023

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Billie Eilish Is “Gay & Tired,” Also “Physically Attracted to Women”

COMING OUT

15 Creative Ways To Come Out to Your Family, Friends and/or the Entire World

COMING OUT

You Need Help: Can I Date While Living With My Homophobic Parents?

COMING OUT

Mo’Nique Grapples With Her Queer Desires, Fear, and Coming Out In New Netflix Special

COMING OUT

You Need Help: How Can I Be My Authentic Self While Navigating Bi-Erasure and Biphobia?

coming out

15 Creative Ways To Come Out to Your Family, Friends and/or the Entire World

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You Need Help: Can I Date While Living With My Homophobic Parents?

coming out

Mo’Nique Grapples With Her Queer Desires, Fear, and Coming Out In New Netflix Special

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