Feature image of La Muxer Diosa and Zoie Blackheart in Crash Pad Series episode 281. All of the photographs in this NSFW Sunday are from the Crash Pad. The inclusion of a visual here should not be interpreted as an assertion of the model’s gender identity or sexual orientation. If you’re a photographer or model and think your work would be a good fit for NSFW Sunday, please email carolyn at autostraddle dot com.
Welcome to NSFW Sunday!
Here’s how you just be together:
“Every relationship has a culture and atmosphere that is constantly being created. Yes, like the universe. A lot of the time what is assumed to be the reality of a relationship is actually the random-ish result of two people being, I guess, who they think they’re supposed to be together, or just being their first-draft selves together, and not “being” anything intentional. This is actually “bad.” It’s not true that being “yourself” means not trying. The selves, so malleable and available and made up mostly of choices, are where the relationship comes from, so the right idea is to “be” or occupy those selves well and with purpose.
I find this idea really beautiful and intimidating. Like, the idea that I’m deciding who I am as a person, and in any relationship in some definitive way, but also re-deciding in every minute, moment, morpheme, whatever, is a lot. So anyway: consider what energy you’re responsible for, what you’re contributing (assuming you’re in a good, respectful, generally balanced relationship, without any version of abuse, or even just an ego that got shot out of a canon or whatever) and what fresh soil and sunlight you could bring to it, instead. I know, right???”
Here’s how to get the best reproductive health care under the current presidency.
Enjoy this assortment of quick relationship advice.
Here’s how to be a better Instagram stalker, if you must.
Check out this queer puppy play erotica at Oh Joy Sex Toy.
Bluetooth sex-toy hacking isn’t as much of a thing as you’re worried it is:
“‘There’s a little bit of sensationalism to stories about sex-toy hacking,’ [sextech expert, sex therapist and clinical psychologist Holly Richmond] says. ‘We still view sex as something that’s private and shameful, so we tend to balk at the idea of our sex-toy data being hacked more than we do our emails or credit card accounts. In reality, there isn’t a lot of additional information hackers can get from your sex toys that they can’t from anywhere else.’
All of which brings us back to the question at hand: How scared should you actually be that some crazed maniac in a Guy Fawkes mask is going to discover that you use your buttplug every Wednesday at 1:47 p.m., and then again at 8:15 p.m.?
‘Not very,’ says Richmond.”
