Feature image of Mona Wales and Natalie Chen in Crash Pad Series episode 271. All of the photographs in this NSFW Sunday are from the Crash Pad. The inclusion of a visual here should not be interpreted as an assertion of the model’s gender identity or sexual orientation. If you’re a photographer or model and think your work would be a good fit for NSFW Sunday, please email carolyn at autostraddle dot com.
Welcome to NSFW Sunday!
What foods are safe to put in your vagina or asshole? Not a lot of them!:
“‘As a traditional medical gynecologist, I am not an advocate of putting food in the vagina,’ Dr. Dweck tells Broadly. ‘There is risk of infection in doing so, because any substance can potentially alter the pH of the vagina, or might be contaminated in some way, and lead to an infection.’
According to Dr. Dweck, one of the main risks of inserting food into the vagina is contact dermatitis, a rash which results in irritation and burning, but is not an infection. Still, UTIs, yeast infections, and bacterial vaginosis can occur as a result of introducing food to the vulva if bacteria colonizes near the urethra, or if the vagina can’t correct its altered pH level naturally after it’s introduced to something that sets it off balance, like various foods.”
When in doubt, don’t put it in your vagina or your asshole. Try some of these sex toys that don’t look like sex toys, some of which look like food instead.
FIST is a zine for leatherdykes created by BDSM sex educator, artist and writer Cristine, who spoke to Into about leatherdyke culture in the 80s, 90s, and now; the challenges of publishing a queer sex zine; how hard it is to learn about sadomasochistic queer history; and more:
“My only real access to leather history is through books and media. There aren’t many out there still in circulation, but they are so important and I wish that all the young people coming into the scene could read them. From what I’ve read, the way it used to be is that elders lead the community and there was more formal training for novices. In New York, where I live, there isn’t much of a close-knit scene. It feels like everyone is casually involved in SM, but not many view it as a lifestyle. There are various leather archives around the country (the most notable one in Chicago), but I haven’t been able to make it out there yet. This past September I went to the Folsom Street Fair in San Francisco for the first time where I got to attend a documentary screening on the Catacombs (a fisting club active in the ‘70s in San Francisco) starring Gayle Rubin. The screening was obviously in a leather bar, it was honestly just perfect. I knew that Gayle Rubin had gotten a copy of FIST and I got to introduce myself and to thank her for what she’s done for all of us. Meeting one of the trailblazers was life-changing.”
Fun thing I learned from this piece: you can read selections from Brat Attack, a queer SM zine published 1991–94, online right here.
This piece in the Guardian totally erases contemporary consensual non-monogamy and polyamory, so read it if you want to feel mad and erased I guess? PSA that polyamory is real.
“The Best Personality” is “open to feelings, positive, and straightforward.”
Financial infidelity, “‘any purposeful financial deceit between two or more individuals’ who have ‘a stated or unstated belief in mutual honest communication around financial matters,’” is common and relates to being less satisfied in a relationship, according to a recent study. Charlotte Cowles at the Cut reports that the author of a different financial infidelity notes that there’s an easy solution: having a better idea of your own financial situation and decisions makes it easier to be clear about them with a partner when appropriate.
Men should stop writing about sex. Seriously. Just stop.
Starbucks will block its wifi users from watching porn in 2019. Please take a moment of silence for all the NSFW Sundays written between 2011 and 2015, when I was still going to Starbucks, that would not have existed had the ban gone into effect earlier. Thank you.
Just go to sleep. Preferably, next to a dog.
