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“‘Sexual scripts are basic blueprints, yes, but clearly they can be adapted and revised for the user,’ Plante writes. ‘Sexual spanking should be viewed as one of the many sexual adaptations individuals make, based on interactions and changes to intrapsychic and interpersonal scripts.’
Plante goes further to explain that there isn’t just one spanking-related sexual script, though, referencing the spanking spectrum, and the difference between those who like to strike and those who like to receive. A person who has a script that says “I give the pleasure” or is dominant would likely get pleasure from spanking someone who gets pleasure from receiving it—most likely a submissive. A preference to spank, to be spanked, or to not partake in the practice at all represents a person’s orientation to their sexuality, gender, and personality. While spanking includes a host of different sexual reactions to different types of striking, it’s still an umbrella term—not all spanking gives people the same type of pleasure, if any at all.”
+ It can be hard to come out as non-monogamous:
“It’s these very stereotypes that make it difficult for non-monogamous people—particularly ones whose extracurricular relationships rarely make it past the casual stage—to fathom being public about their relationship status. Yet it’s also these stereotypes that makes coming out as non-monogamous—and, in the process, normalizing the idea of relationship structures other than two people exclusively bonded for life—feel so important to many who’ve chosen to reject monogamy.”
+ This 3D model of the clitoris could be the start of a sexual revolution (at least, in France).
+ At Oh Joy Sex Toy, Capp discusses vestibulodynia, a surprisingly common medical condition that causes pain in the vaginal opening.
+ Indiegogo has added a sexual wellness category.
+ Being asexual has always been okay regardless of what science has to say about it, but science has now caught up with that.
+ Proposition 60, which would make condom use mandatory for adult films in California, shift the cost of STI testing onto production companies, and allow anyone to sue companies for violation, is a bad idea.
+ Whatever you think about Victorian attitudes toward sex, you’re probably wrong.
+ Being a badass and a bottom is not contradictory:
“Based on kinky stereotypes, it seems like being a bad-ass and being a bottom are contradictory. But they’re not — just like being a sweetheart and being a top are not contradictory. Having a core of concern and emotional care for someone else makes that person even better qualified to be a top, just like having a strong sense of self, direction, and desire makes someone an even better bottom.
Submissives are often seen as weak, passive little creatures who don’t have a brain of their own, and whose head gets filled with their dominant’s every whim. Or, perhaps worse, as doormats who are being taken advantage of, controlled, and manipulated.
While this might be true for some folks — toxic relationship behavior and abuse can and does happen in D/s relationships, just like any other — most submissives I know are actually bad-asses.”
Left @darlingniki-b, right @kenziethehappyfairy.
Photography by @makingsciencesexy.
+ Sex education is basically the worst, almost universally:
“[R]esearchers were able to identify the two biggest issues with sex education. The first: schools don’t acknowledge that sex is a special subject that, unlike a standard English or math class, requires a bit more finesse to teach effectively. […]
The second major problem was that schools seemed to deny that their students were sexually active, which made the information out of touch with reality, irrelevant and overly skewed toward heterosexual intercourse, the researchers say. There was little practical information […] Teachers also presented the information as overly scientific, with hardly a nod to pleasure and desire; female pleasure, specifically, was rarely mentioned.”
